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Abstaining always causes same problem

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Trucker, Jun 15, 2018.

  1. Trucker

    Trucker Fapstronaut

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    every time I've vowed to abstain it results in the same failure.
    I resisted even trying for far longer than I intended because I knew I'd have to deal with this problem.
    I know it's not the regular reaction but three to four days into an attempt to reboot I start having wet dreams which I know some say isn't cheating but I try not to think of anything erotic but after a few days I ache so much I have to cum and that means a wet dream but now I've had several occasions where I've either spilled some pre cum or had a full ejaculation in the day.
    I can feel by day four there is such a build up of semen it just starts to release and I managed to hide it the first few times but have had a mega embarrassing release in front of someone I'm already in an awkward relationship with ( not my gf)
    I feel that if I don't deliberately expel my full balls after two or three days it's going to happen. How on earth do you manage it? I cannot comprehend going anywhere near as long as recommended to reboot.
     
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  2. PMO addict

    PMO addict Fapstronaut

    I never had the day time spontaneous ejaculations but when I have a wet dream it's pretty voluminous!!!
     
  3. Fenix Rising

    Fenix Rising Fapstronaut

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    It's called willpower :) Going through headaches, blue balls, wild mode swings, depression, anxiety, PIED, flatline, insomnia is all in the mix. You have to suffer for a few months until things get better.
     
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  4. Well I will tell you its not a easy path its difficult and a lot of people make it harder than it needs to be simply because they think they start this and within a couple of days lose there motivation. The key is review your motivation daily , how do you do that well simply answering these simple but effective questions and reviewing them EVERY DAY here they are
    1. Why do you want to quit porn masturbation ?
    2. what effect has it been having on you how is making you feel ?

    The mind is quick to forgot so reveiwng and answering those questions daily help
     
  5. Trucker

    Trucker Fapstronaut

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    I've never thought of myself as weak willed but I just don't seem to have the tools to go through with any prolonged abstinence.
    I'm amazed at how so many on here manage to maintain their rebooting.
    I don't think I'll ever manage to achieve the goal of a reboot and release myself from my urges.
    How can will power stop me from physically aching?
     
  6. Ezpz

    Ezpz Fapstronaut

    I havn't really had the problem of blue balls much throughout my reboot. Each of our reboots are unique and we all experience different symptoms when in a reboot. I doubt there are many here who have had an easy reboot.

    My advice would be to push through those first few weeks, the ache may go away if you give it some more time. I heard the cold can help reduce the ache, try that as a means to calm things down.

    If you really can't manage that and you feel you must masturbate, this is fine. The main goal here is no porn so you could try masturbation when you need to, without any images or thoughts or porn.
     

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