Old Habits Die Hard .. Back to Phase 1 Again

Do you really want to give it up?
Or
In some corner of your being you crave for porn and have it as an acceptable thing?

 

When this happens to me, invariably something bad is going on in my life which makes me crave porn as a short-term pleasurable escape. Usually I know what that something bad is, and maybe I can't do anything about it, or maybe I can. If I can, I should take steps to fix it. If I can't I need to think of anything better to do than PMO, which is like drinking saltwater to quench a thirst.

 

When you search for stuff, you usually find it. I often relapse that way.

 

I know exactly what you're talking about. I've tried everything from placing restrictions on my device to keeping my phone away and yet I can't seem to help but find a way to relapse again. I guess that's why I've turned to this community to get some support. Truthfully, I know that i have a problem and that I need some help.

 

Well if your mind is not under your control, it will be very hard to get rid of this.
Try and get your willpower and willingness to quit. Mind over matter!
If you think you need Porn, then you will keep relapsing.
But if you truly think you don't need porn, then your chances of reboot get way way better .

 

Have you tried sitting down with a therapist and talking this out? I know it’s a tough one to approach but if you’re serious about it that’s another tool to end this.

 

Welcome to the club. Binge compulsive PMO after 6 months in 'hard mode'. Stress and anxiety have finally win... again.

 

Ain't that the truth!

 

If you are working on computers is compulsory then you must have install web filter

 

The conflicted stage of not being able to give up on NoFap but on the other hand not having full willingness [which creates periodic relapses] is a hard one. Because in a bad state of mind you can undo all of your protections and even accountability partners doesn't always stop relapses.

The question of how to get full willingness is difficult one. I talked to a relative in 12 step program one time, successfully sober for years, and asked why some people go in and out of program and others succeed, and they said you need willingness. I asked how do you get willingness and they kind of didn't know. Some have to hit rock bottom to get it but what makes a bottom? When you stop digging they said. Can be confusing some times.