So far I have managed a 69 day streak without any urges at all by taking cold showers every morning. Overnight I had a wet dream and woke up with strong urges. For some reason the cold shower did not work today. I had a previous wet dream around day 8 and the cold shower worked then but it's not working now, I still have the urge feel even as I'm typing. I have been outside most of today and avoiding indoors but I'm at home now and I'm worried I'm going to make a mistake. What can I do to make these urges go away immediately?
You just got to let it pass over you. I highly recommend meditation do help relieve stress. You have the right idea just avoid your computer and phone and eventually it the urges will go.
1.intense workout 2.any beverages 3.watch horror or comedy shows all three helps in vanishing urges fast
When urges are the strongest, I believe it's because we are trying to push them away. The urge is there. We can act on it, which is not why we are all here. Or, we can allow the urge to sit in our minds and bodies without judgement or action. "Hold" the urge and examine it. Where do you feel it in your body? What's underneath it? Where did it come from? Use the RAIN approach and there is a good chance the urge will drift away; see https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-wise-brain/201405/let-it-rain.
One thing that might actually be helpful would be to remind myself that "I have an addiction". It doesn't mean anything moral like the false religious concept. But its just a way of reminding myself that if I pick up, I will be in active addiction.
Yeah.... so thanks to all of you but you were a bit too late. I ended up MO 4 times and 2 of those with porn. I don't feel as shit as I usually due and I think this is because the past 70 days clean is still benefiting me. I will take all this advice into consideration if the urges come around this streak.