[365-CHALLENGE] THE THREE HUNDRED AND SIXTY FIVE DAYS CHALLENGE !

I don't think it is....perhaps you were on some purpose...and so it's fine

 

10 days down....in the double digits.....want to get as far as possible from that 0

 

Day 0/365

Late last night, I was trying to look for some interesting quotes from an author I like. That led me to pinterest, which is usually fine for me, but saw some provocative pics there, got triggered and started drifting in that direction. Saw some nudes and realized Mr. Mojo was rising, started to think, "Uh-oh, this is trouble!" Looked away, could tell I was about to have a hands-free O and tried to mentally block it from happening but it was the point of no return and it happened. Felt depressed, looked back to the screen and Mo'ed. A few factors:

• Late at night, definitely not at the height of my mental powers (rationality, decision making, etc.)
• Earlier, had been watching a baseball game - good game, but had two beers. Normally, this would not be something that has messed up my decision-maker, but in this case it may have lowered my inhibitions. Looking back, I don't think I had much food in my system.
• Was doing the laundry and threw in anything that needed to be cleaned, including the underwear I had on. I threw on some sweat pants and didn't think anything of it, but the added freedom down there with no skivvies may have added to arousal when it did happen, although...
• ...I had been feeling dead below the belt the whole week. I found it a little odd since this week in the gym I found I could lift heavier weights than usual, although definitely sore the next day, but it felt good. Felt like some natural steroids kicking in.
• Stress, although that is pretty much the air that I breathe every day. Lately I had been getting my hopes up about a really great opportunity, even though it was highly unlikely to turn out. So, when it didn't, I felt dejected as it finally fully sunk in that it was not going to turn out favorably. Then looking at the list of other feasible options I have been brainstorming has been like: OK, let's see:

1. Yuck.
2. Yuck!
3. Yikes!!
4. I have throw-up in my mouth.
5. etc.

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• Little details add up. Waltzed into another ambush and feel like Duh! What a pushover you are lately!
• So, basically, just another easy day.
  
• Still alive.
• Good.

 

Sorry for not posting yesterday.Onto the 5th day ..So I joined this automobile internship , an 8 day course .Today is the second day of it.So Im pretty much busy the entire day.Yesterday I was in a complete rush.Anyway no urges .Have a good day!

 

Day 138/365

 

Day1

 

You have one brain so any work you do will be compounding, so this challenge will help. I can only give very general advice, but one thing to change might be perspective - I don't know what your situation really is beyond what you've said here, but usually whenever I'm going through a difficult challenge it helps to direct my focus towards loving the challenge and the goal, but mostly just allowing myself to do the work. I think the JP fans have maybe heard this before, but whatever you focus on is going to determine what you see and even in the short term that is going to shape your behavior.

My brother and a mentor gave me a few pieces of advice that have stuck with me: 1) "manage the interference" Someone could probably write essays worth of info on this, but I like to translate it sometimes as "we are imperfect and live for a very short time so make choices that are going to direct you most closely towards the path that is going to turn you into what you want to become and let go of the things that are inconsistent with that." 2) "start where you are" you have this life now. You have what you have to work with. Getting upset over your situation or treating yourself anything less than like your best friend is usually just going to prevent growth toward the direction you want. So letting yourself be whatever you are and being ok with that and focusing instead on perspective and the work is a really life changing thing, albeit a little horrifying.

It sounds like you are aware of what problems you want to work on and you're here so you've taken steps to improve yourself and that's more than a lot would do so be happy about that.

As far as the girl thing goes reading "The Natural" by Richard La Ruina wouldnt be a bad idea, but a lot of that is consistency, perseverance and confidence. When you start anything that isn't something you're used to your brain's reaction is usually to go into fuck this mode and try to keep you from follow through. If you push through that every time is going to get easier and you're going to adapt. As far as the precum thing goes i think it might help to just desensitized yourself by putting yourself around women a lot so that they change from being so intimidating

Hope any of this has helped, no matter what keep moving forward in the direction of your goals and you'll have a result to be proud of

 

As per your last relapses it sounds like you're aware enough about your life and what you have to work on, no doubt you're gonna get it if you just keep it up

 

Day 6

 

i think it is a good idea and helpful idea to modify your attitude, you can go ahead in this journey for a certain amount of time and and length with willpower, you should enhance your understanding my brother.
go to this page ,this man will help you. he has a good knowledge and understanding.

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?members/brahmakumar101.201653/

 

thank you for your response ,it was helpful.
have a good day my friend

 

thank you for your response,yes i was there on purpose , but i don't recommend anyone to seek this kind of searching during nofap period ,because once you go into those things and sites , the cravings also come into your mind which i ignore them.

 

sorry to hear that
as i mention in a reply to another friend of us,i did search about a beautiful italian actress ,about her shape, i even went into porn site to watch one of her love scene ,kissing and hugging to figure out her shape,and i ignore another things, but i highly recommend to not doing it,becuase it is a basically wrong search and second in this period of nofap the brain is still very sensitive to triggers even small one.
and once you get there you will fill yourself aroused or stimulated to crave more and the wrong loop will turned on.
so,it is a good idea to forbid ourselves from triggers from big to small one.

 

very useful tips my brother
i thank you
it was useful for me

 

Day 28
i feel better than the yesterday
"whenever i focus on my goals and at the same time on my body being free from thoughts and on my proper breathing
and ignore the women's requesting for sex ,the level of my body goes up and i feel more strength and i feel i have more control over my body and thoughts ,focus,attention.
this is a saying of my past martial art master.
he was a world champion in 2004
now i feel a bit the same.

 

At the moment, I actually feel really good. I've been putting pencil to paper and brainstorming more, and I think I've come up with something better to do with my life. I keep returning in my head to the first rule in Bob Bowman's book: A champion sets a "dream big" vision. I've decided to raise my sights further and aim for a world-class caliber outcome.

 

Feel free to write more posts like this if the spirit moves you. This is extremely helpful for anyone on this path. I need to diligently keep a notebook.

I think at the right time, the mentor will arrive in each of our lives.

 

Day 8.5/365

 

Day 12/365.
Yesterday was a very difficult day for me. In the morning my urges were very strong, but I somehow managed to stay in control until it was over. In the evening it got even worse.
I kept telling myself that I need to decide what I want: Do I want to go back to PMO and stop nofap, or do I want to really learn to control myself. In the latter case a relapse is really pointless, it would just make me feel bad again, starting over at day 0, and I'm sick of it. I know that it gets easier to abstain from PMO if you are on a long streak. The struggles become less - thats where I want to be. Feeding my mind with the belief that it's ok to relapse and start over again has made it that much more difficult for me..
I hope I will manage to win this fight. I came to win.

 

I certainly haven't experienced it, but my eyesight is decent anyways^^ In my opinion the lasting benefits of NoFap are all internal - and certainly worth it. It's good to see you are doing well