Never had girlfriend. Lonely! Need advice

same story 31yr old never had gf

 

These kind of lies are created while using porn.
If you rediscover your own value, and start acting accordingly, things are gonna change buddy.

I hope you will be able to start working on your issues in stead of focusing on a girl.
First fix yourself, get yourself and your life right. Lot of people think they need a girl to fix there problems, but imo the problems will only increase in time. (I don't say talking with girls is wrong, but I would be careful to start a serious relationship when having serious issues).

It can be amazing helpful to talk to a mature person frequently to get your emotional life right.
Whenever you start feeling peaceful and having your own life, the girl who fits to you and your life will come up.

There is a huge amount of journals you can read here to get the necessary knowledge, that will help also to get rid of the need for porn. It will come right if you are willing to do the work.

 

I will be 30 by the end of the year, I've had a couple girlfriends through dating sites but never had sex with them (yes I am still a virgin). It was something I really desired, but when the moment was coming, I panicked (plus the PIED wouldn't help either). Just like you, I did it out of desperation after having a surreal nightmare years ago about being alone for the rest of my life. I've learned along the way that women can pick up the 'stench' of desperation even when you don't think it's showing. You have to be yourself and enjoy life. You'll find your soul mate eventually.

 

Hey man be the man ypu want first then ypu will find the woman you want as a result. Focus on yourself, if ypu are not well with your physical appearence try to change it and cultivate a mental toughness. It is not the end of the world after all if you don't have a gf but the most important thing is to have a very well mind.

 

Hi, i am 30 and never really had a serious relationship either, tended to isolate me very much do to some factors.
Guess meeting new people and girls through a common friends usually tend to work.

 

Floyd, all of us have had those insecurities in the past. If this is the way you feel about yourself, than you should do whatever it takes to change that perception. If you feel that you are fat, exercise and hit the gym. You will feel better and look better too. Many ways you can better yourself by reading good books on personal growth. And listen to Roady, he gives a lot of good advice.

True but they can also pick up when a guy feels good about himself and is confident. That is one of many reasons why we should better ourselves.

 

Too fat? workout and eat better. Boring? Get a hobby. Weird? Nothing wrong with being weird to an extent. Creepy? probably just in your head.
Work on yourself before bothering with dating. A girl you like will appear out of nowhere.

 

I had this too in some degree.. havent had a GF in years, and have not many friends..
But now im trying to imrove my life (since like 1-2 year ago im serious with it), and i feel like going vegan has done major benefit for me.
Before i was desperate, and was open to any chick, but when i get more in touch with my own feelings and value, i dont want a random chick anymore, but someone who is really special. But yeah first.. i have to be best friends with myself, do everything i can to be good morally, healthy, clean, pure. Quitted smoking, Nofap, Vegan. Now i believe it will br possible for me to get a better life, but am not there yet, but hope is back.
So my advice would be to not focus too much on the ladies, but focus on your own life goals, becoming the best you can be. All the best

 

Find a friend or relative that is good with women wing mans

 

I have the opposite problem, I have a girlfriend who wants to be serious and I just want to have more sexual experiences before settling down. I've only had 2 girlfriends and 6 sexual partners. If you need some advice, I'll try to help with what experiences I have. Just let me know.

 

If you don't create your own reality, your reality will create you. You are what you believe. So if this is your mindset and your thought process, then that is the energy you will output to the world. This is why you keep attracting the same type of insecure low confidence girls. Because you all have the same belief, you are on the same level. If you want to attract someone different then you have to think different. That is why confident people who are average looking can get attractive girls. Its all about the energy that you give off and the way that you think. Anything is possible you are only limited by your negative beliefs and thinking.

If you think you are too fat then work out and clean up your diet. If you think you are too ugly then change your wardrobe dress like someone who projects confidence and also work out too. If you think you are boring then make yourself interesting. Make sure that you have a lot of things going on in your life. Go to events, work on your hobbies, travel etc... These all give you talking points. When you have a lot of things to talk about you become interesting.

You are weird and creepy because you have a negative belief system. You are what you belief. If you think you are weird and creepy then you will act that way, because that is how you see yourself. Stop fapping, work on your anxiety, get a dating coach, go out more etc... Do all of this and then watch as your life does a complete 180, and you start meeting the girls that you dream of.