Day 27 - Came while dryhumping a girl. Does this count as a reset?

Hey man, I would say speak to your doctor honestly about it. I had ED issues seeing years back and my doctor prescribed some blue pills and gave me a calming talk about how simply setting the mood, couple of drinks etc. might fix the whole situation on its own. I used the pills sparingly and things got better.
Had some relapses later in a different relationship (the original one was not particularly healthy in the bedroom dept.) Hit the blues up again and mostly got better but it was an up and down thing (no pun intended).
Thing is I didn't know my porn usage was a problem then so I wasn't addressing the real issue.

You are taking positive action already so the chat with your doctor (again honest discussion) can't be a bad thing.
Just be careful to not become reliant on the pills. Treat them as you would a painkiller to a broken bone, not as a splint and cast.

And most important of all with ED: don't put pressure on yourself and be as open as you can with your partner. I say that because I know ladies who don't know what's going on will automatically think it's something they're doing or something wrong with them.

Final note: I am not a medical professional and these are my opinions based on my own experience only!

I wish you the best man, keep fighting and succeed.

 

Hello friend,

Like you I quite due to PIED. You can read my journal for everything if you want but I'll give you a brief account of what I think is relevant to you.

The first time I tried having sex with a girl, I couldn't get it up. I was absolutely horrified and had no idea why. I had it in my head that I didn't want to O too quickly with her so I M'd like a half hour before I went to hang out with her thinking it would make me last longer. I took that as the explanation for why I coudn't get it up when the time came with her.

The next day I hung out with her again and it worked. We had sex but it didn't work at first. After trying and failing to get it up we just hung out and watched tv without cloths on. This removed the pressure of needing to get it up then and there and so eventually I got an erection. I was then able to get it up with her pretty consistently after that time and everything was normal.

When I went to college I met a girl I was interested and we tried having sex but again I couldn't get erect. Once again I was horrified and didn't know how to resolve it. It took a few attempts for it to finally work and I learned that basically I needed her to stimulate me with oral in order to get an erection. I would only ever get erect when I was already approaching an O. I would never last long in bed because by the time I was erect I was already close to O. I would also lose my erection if the action stopped for more than a minute or so. Often time I would lose an erection just by stopping to put on a condom. I needed constant stimulation to stay erect. I never considered that PMO could be the problem. We dated for a long time and continued to have sex in this fashion.

We broke up and I had sex with another girl and it was the same story. I could only get it up when there was no pressure and often needed oral stimulation first. By this time I thought I was broken and thought that every encounter with a woman would have to begin with the embarrassment of me not being able to get or stay erect. I started NoFap and began rebooting for a few months.

I then found my current girlfriend but avoided having sex with her for quite some time just because I didn't want to go through the embarassment and wasn't sure how she would react. Eventually I just confessed to her the problem and that alone relieved all the pressure. We had sex the next day with no issues and I have only had occasional trouble getting or staying erect with her.

For my case I think PMO has weakened my ability to get erections and the stress and performance anxiety just destroys whatever ability remains. Not sure if you can relate to any of this at all but maybe we are in similar boats.

 

No way does that constitute a reset! You weren't in porn fantasy land. You were with a real person. Good thing you didn't include 'no orgasm' in your day tracker. That would have been confusing. Glad I didn't include 'no orgasm' either. Although I would refrain to spill my seed during sex with her for yoga reasons, still, a Big O would be a gift to her while my no-PM day tracker keeps moving forward. A win-win.

 

Hey lads!
I've been reading this from the beginning, sounds like we all on the same boat..
I'm new to this, and some of the abbreviated words are still blurry to me!
Im basically 27, only been in one sort of a long relationship (broke up couple years ago) haven't been with someone since then.. So my reliance on porn was huge the past years until I met this girl who works with me, I failed to get an erection and haven't tried since then, you know.. Girls talk and didn't want to dig me a bigger hole
Im used to watching porn at least four days a week.. I haven't thought it's an issue neither that it's what's causing me these issues in bed!

I'm actually going to stick this and sort it out.. I'm not a bad guy, not bad looking either and get flirts all the time! And to be honest I want to find someone and settle down a bit instead of not knowing my head to toes ..

 

Sounds like a reboot is a really good idea -- porn is toxic in on several levels. (Can't tell how deeply PMO-dependent you've become.) Your mini-you may not have risen to the occasion for other reasons (happens to the best of guys); still a PMO-purge is an excellent place to "clean up." Good luck, bro.