please PREDICT my reboot time

We're all awkward dudes here, together we stand!

There s no certain date, but I've heard after 3 months you become a superhuman.

remember, higher skill -> lower fear , try to develop your social skill by talking to anyone

 

PMO: From what I hear, the amount of time it takes to reboot depends on the person. There is no research (that I know about) or mathematical models based on statistics to predict a reboot time. That said, 44 days is a good streak and something to be proud of. Now.... IT'S TIME TO GO DEEPER!

In your case, you literally grew up fapping. I suspect your social awkwardness comes from several things, not least of which is the cyclical nature of acting out. To start, you felt a little awkward around other people and that was kind of painful, but fapping, it feels good, so you do it. But afterwards, something inside you says, "Man, fapping isn't right and because I fap, I'm not right." The feeling of shame arises, which like feeling socially awkward, is painful, but fapping, it feels good, so you do it, again. And the cycle goes on, getting stronger and stronger, ingraining a habit which becomes a behavior which becomes an addiction.

All this to say, YOU CANNOT REBOOT FULLY UNTIL YOU BREAK THE CYCLE! And since we might suspect the social awkwardness is a main factor in this story, if you are inclined, try the following. Find a quiet, modestly public place and sit by yourself. Relax with a few deep breathes, feel your body and notice your surroundings. Now, close your eyes and imagine yourself in a social situation. Allow yourself to feel as much as possible and sense how your mind and body react. It is important here not to try to avoid in anyway the feelings and effects of the imagining, because remember, it's all in your head right now. Get use to the feels and emotions and just let them be without judgement or avoidance or care. Try to keep with this exercise for 5 to 20 minutes. And repeat often, daily if you can find the time and place. At some point extend the imagery to include interaction with another person you know, then try someone you don't know, and perhaps if you feel strong enough, someone you would like to know. All the time allow the feelings and emotions to just be. Try this visualization for month, then try a real social situation and watch how you react.

I'm only going to ask one thing. Let me know if you actually try this exercise, and more interestingly, what comes out of it.

Peace and strength in rebooting, Brother.

 

1 year

 

2 years as per Gary Wilson's theory and my experience. It took more than 1 year for me and i was addicted for 5 years.

 

Depression, anxiety, Social awkwardness, Numb feeling. All these issues came in cycles.

 

Almost cured. Even if i get them, the intensity is very less now

 

I saw them going slowly.

 

I did 405 days as my highest streak and in that i had severe withdrawals, Now this is my second highest streak and feel like i have passed the dark phase. Looking at your history, 1.5-2 years you will have mood swings and withdrawals. For god's sake don't relapse.

 

Yes 405 days are more than enough so relapse not make a huge difference and journey started again as it is. Now i have made it a lifestyle

 

Your time line of ages is similar to mine, but keep in mind everyone is different. I started with regular vanilla photos of girls in bikinis and it progressed to a severe femdom fetish that I acted on in real life.

It took me a solid year and change to fully recover, I even had a girlfriend that was apart of my reboot, cuddling/kissing/hand holding etc that really helped me, some people have more healing to do with others and just because it took a year for me it doesn’t necessarily mean it will for you. Personally I feel I was quite severely damaged mentally.

If you go complete hard mode, aka no looking at pictures/videos, no edging, no masturbating to pixels and only touching your dick when you need to pee and shower I’d estimate 12 months at the very least, factor in the inevitable relapses that will happen 18 months minimum is more likely.

 

Not entirely but you do notice improvements, I did. I mean I used to be unable to go to a store and if the cashier was a girl I wasn’t even able to look at her in the eyes and string along sentences without jumbling everything.

 

As with anything it takes practice.

I was very socially awkward. I couldn't speak to women at all. However being thrust in to a job where I had to talk to women all day every day you just pick up the skills needed to cope in that situation.

It might take a few years but eventually given the right practice it gets easier.

What job do you do?