Delayed ejaculation lifer - turning to NoFap

Hey @Appleism ,

First Welcome to NoFap. I'm nobody special on here, just a normal ordinary member with no super powers.

You are among friends. I try not to share my opinion, only my ESH (Experience, Strengh and Hope).

I looked at your profile and there's no geographic area listed. So, this might not apply. For myself, having been circumcised as an infant did cause me to also have to masturbate "hard". As you say death grip. Then, after death grip, I've experienced PIED (Porn Induced Ejaculatory Delay) during real sex.

My brain just got wired to require more and more mental stimulation to produce an ejaculation and orgasm (the orgasm is really in the brain).

Even if you weren't circumcised as an infant, having death grip can cause a a cycle where sex in real life just doesn't produce enough stimulation for me to have an orgasm.

The good news is a rebooting has helped. And getting rid of that pmo cycle has made a huge difference.

My ESH is that NoFap is about action and that meant work for me. It is not about "not doing something", for me, it is about working my program.

Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

Learn the NoFap Program
The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

They are:

• Download the free Getting Started guide.
  
  
• Set up a PMO-Counter Badge. More info here!
  
  
• Basic introduction to the science of porn addiction!
  
  
• Basic information about rebooting and how our challenges can help you recover from PMO. This is the most important page to read. If you only can read one page, read this one.
  
  
• About NoFap.
  
  
• Watch this video - it is an epic intro resource if you want to get particular details about porn addiction and how it changes how your brain works.
  
  
• This is a good light-weight video about porn addiction.
  
  
• Read through the journal sections and see what other rebooters have experienced. It is good to know what to expect, otherwise the "chaser effect", "the surge", or the "flatline" might throw you off.
  
  
• If you come across vocabulary that you can't understand, check out our rebooting glossary of terms.
  
  
• GET ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR HABITS! Sign up for a peer accountability partner. Otherwise if you want more professional-hosted solutions, check out NoFap Premium or Reboot Camp. If you can afford to invest in yourself, these are great options.
  

You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

Get Involved with the Community
The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

Remember, I'm just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can:

• Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH
  
  
• Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles
  
  
• Pick a forum and make sure every post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.
  
  
• Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
  

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

--> L

PS – I Think of pmo like a wolf. If I Stay near the center of the group with the winners the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, stray near the edges of the community by not working my program and the wolf can pick me off.

 

For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship.

@Chriss27
@bartbar
@mankiam33
@Freedom Fighter
@CrushPornBeneathYourFeet
@JakeO5
@Arohamystic
@MLMVSS
@Rising Sun !!
@JackMcWaffles


Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles.

So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself.

Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles,

--> L

 

Hey, I'm on my 14th day of nofap, I decided to start this journey because I have delayed ejaculation as well. I believe that my problem is pmo. I would like to know how things are going,

 

Thanks buddy, Im still reading and finding interesting topics here

 

I don't know how can I make this easier to be seen, but today I got good reasons to celebrate. As you can read in my profile I'm 36 and as crazy as this sounds I had only cum while having sex a couple times, I lost my virginity when I was 12 so that's a long time. I always had problems with condoms, couldn't get a full erection wearing one, the sensations were close to nothing. For 3 years I was in a monogamous relationship with no sex, the problem wasn't me, my partner's libido was incredibly low so we got used to no sex, and even to sleep in separate beds while travelling. I always felt that wasn't ok, but I knew that regardless of having no sex we were a nice couple. During this time I got used to PMO because I never felt like cheating. We broke up one year ago and after that now year two weeks ago I decided to do something about it. I didn't feel confident to go in dates or have sex during that time, and PMO was somehow "taking care" of my needs. So to weeks ago I decided to give a try to nofap, I knew that at some point I'd be so horny that I'd go back into dates or hookups. Well my first week I had sex 3 times with my fuck buddy but although it felt good I didn't ejaculate at all and decided not to masturbate. It wasn't easy, after the day 9 I started feeling a little bit aggressive, and after day 6 I've been sleeping like a baby, which is great news, because usually im restless. Long story short, today I went into a hookup, I got a bj, and noticed that the sensations were way more than before, I has almost a full erection the most of the time, after that I had sex, wearing a condom, I didnt lose the erection, it felt so good, even with the condom!!! and finally I cum. This really makes me happy, one because it worked really fast, I mean one week definitely worth the blue balls. I don't think this is it, I want to stay no PM for a while to build my self confidence and push myself into going out, approaching guys. And after this two first weeks I can tell you guys, with no PMO you are going to feel like your day has a couple extra hours so now I want to go back to the gym and take care of myself.