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Nearing 120 days with one relapse on the way

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Warrior36, Jul 3, 2018.

  1. Warrior36

    Warrior36 Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys I have had a long fight with this which I feel like finally I'm becoming fully victorious over it. Thought to share my story and a few tips what helped me if there's any help for someone.

    Long story short started watching at age 7 and pretty much did it till 20 years old often masturbating multiple times a day. Then I had my first attempts to quit, now age 26 and over the past 7 months or so I have relapsed a total of 5 times I think. I have managed to get it to low numbers but what bothers me is how I have had such a hard time quitting it completely. Like somehow I forget to take it seriously and slip a little. I mean I have no problems getting back on track even when facing intense urges after a relapse but i dont understand what gets to me on long streaks why i start trying the thin ice again. No girlfriend yet, just few random hookups and fuckbuddy relationships. Not so healthy sexual life thus far because of my bad habit...but Im working and believing it gets better, a whole lot better!!!!

    Here a few tips and tricks from my journey

    Do not edge.
    This was a brutal mistake I made at one point. Because porn made me miserable after finishing, I started edging to delay it. I know, incredibly retarded. But only what it made was make me more addicted. So please no matter what you do, DO NOT start edging!!!

    Focus on building the new, instead of fighting the old.
    What you focus on tends to grow. And focusing on hardship, pain, and battle is sadly what you get if you think about it all the time. Stop mostly thinking about the resisting part. You don't even want it really. What you really want is to live a happy, balanced life with amazing partner. Imagine her being by your side and what amazing things you do together and what kind of amazing sex you have together. Focus on the good!

    Take it seriously.
    When I first noticed benefits of abstaining I didnt still take it seriously enough to quit it. I thought it wasnt that important. Oh how wrong i was. This is SUPER important if you want to have a healthy social and sexual life. Don't take it too lightly. Have the right sense of seriousness in your mind about getting rid of it even if it has not yet brought any real trouble to you.

    Pursue women.
    Again, focus on building the new and good. Actively go on tinder/meet women through mutual hobbies etc. And ask them out. This also motivates you to continue on your journey. If you haven't had much women in your life, it could be that you need to use your imagination to wake up the normal interest towards women. So don't just battle it out, go somewhere where u might meet women and actively pursue those you find interesting.

    Mindset and habits
    Focus on other parts of your life too. Develop that mindset to not be lazy, impatient, make excuses or have some other bad addictions too. Work on establishing good habits. Eat well, regular exercise, stimulate mind and absorb knowledge (reading, learn new skill) foster meaningful relationships. You name it. Work on them and before you realize, they have become a second nature.

    Porn is the real problem, not necessarily masturbating
    Definitely have relapsed sometimes because of a long abstinence and been so horny cant think straight. I mean not watching and masturbating is the best, but if it helps you to avoid from watching porn, masturbate to your imagination. Remember porn is the real enemy, not masturbation!

    Dont be afraid of love or failing with women in general
    Stop overthinking. Listen to your heart. Have a positive expectation. Just go with your feelings mixed with a hint of logical thinking is this the right fit for me.

    Thats it thanks for reading and if this helps even one person i have succeeded. Stay strong!
     
  2. David0895

    David0895 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for share, friend! I will to practice right now.
     
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  3. Phoenix1

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    Great post...i just have my reservation about your perception of masturbation.Masturbation is also an enemy just like porn.Porn depletes tour mind emotionally while masturbation depltes tour body of precious untrients.Both are equally evil
     
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  4. Cool_Bro

    Cool_Bro Fapstronaut

    Great achievement Brother ! All your points are very helpful. :) Good going
     
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  5. Warrior36

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    Yes it's not good obviously, but I think it's not as bad as porn. So if you are on the brink of relapsing to porn but masturbate without it and it helps you to not watch porn, I think then it's a better choice.
     
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  6. Phoenix1

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    If people are not masturbating to porn they are thinking or fantacising about porn images in their mind...
     
  7. Sorry but many long nofap streakers here said M have same effect like porn on our brain from their experience.
     
  8. I disagree, anything done in excess is harmful. While No M maybe useful in NoFap journey. I believe 1 or 2 M a month without P should be okay. Even better if you have a partner. Then you can have a little sex
     
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  9. Warrior36

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    Depends I guess. If you imagine real sex during it, then it isn't that bad i think. If your imagination takes you back to porn... Then it's really bad.
     
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  10. Phoenix1

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    Well i havent seen anyone who doesnt imagine nude images.. scenes while masturbating...great if you do...keep it up
     
  11. I don’t usually M to images. I just got into the physical stimulation/sensations. I’ve had 2 Os in 22 days. One wet dream one while edging. No real harm I don’t think. I find when I did O I see it as an opportunity to draw closer to my God.
     
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  12. Imagining nude images not equal to watching porn my friend
     
  13. Warrior36

    Warrior36 Fapstronaut

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    Perhaps not equal, but still it can awaken the craving or delay the recovery process. I think everything related to P has to be cut out to make a successful recovery. It doesn't exist for you in any way. So if you cannot imagine real sex, you should also abstain from masturbating till you can.
     
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  14. Indeed this is primary. Thanks for the reminder.
     
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