Struggling with the Inappropriate Content that the PA May Have Watched

Brittsyboos · Jul 3, 2018

I was scrolling through instagram and there was a post with a child character and his mom from Fairly Odd Parents and then there was a comment from ShadMan (though the comment was not shown and only his name and profile picture were seen). As far as I understand it...the joke is supposed to be ShadMan making "art" involving incest and/or sexualization of the child.

Seeing this made me remember seeing ShadBase as a site my partner would visit and then it got me wondering if he really looked at that content like that...and lolis?

We also recently were watching an anime where there were 10-17 year old female slaves...the majority of them had stripped right down to be naked for their master and were begging to be used. I had seen this too many times in one episode and told him I was leaving and he should probably power that down. Once is more than what I want to see and multiple times had crossed the line. TBH I'm kinda surprised he didn't say anything about it beforehand.

Now I think of all the hypersexualization of prepubescent girls and I hate the term "barely legal" (as if you want to even be CLOSE to masturbating to underage girls...seriously. Gross.)

So anyways, now I am struggling with the fact that he has probably looked at that type of content whether it was intentional or not. I'd like to think he never seeked it out but who am I to know.

Everytime I think about it I flinch and shiver because it is so disturbing to me.

TryingToHeal · Jul 3, 2018

You're right, it is disturbing. I'm sorry. I struggle with what my PA husband looked at as well.

Deleted Account · Jul 3, 2018

I dumped one, same reason.

jfromcr · Jul 7, 2018

For the guys I work with, I tell them we all find our branch on the tree of sexual sin and hang ourselves from it. There may be legitimate issues for why guys head in this direction, but you have every right to be freaked out.

At the Covenant Eyes Set Free Summit, the statistics gather by the Barna Group said that most porn users think 13 is acceptable age. This is the opinion of PAs not mine or Covenant Eyes.

How to respond:
First, if you think your SO has committed a crime you need to have him contact an attorney.
Second, hope for the best but assume the worst. You cannot rely on the words of an addict, addicts lie.
Third, remove yourself and your children from the situation if you don't feel safe.

I won't say they are beyond help. But, when I think about the number of women I talk to with sexual abuse in their past, I get angry. We all need to draw a line and keep our children safe.

OK, now that I have all of that out of my system.
I also deal with guys struggling with unwanted same-sex attraction, bondage, and age issues. Our brains feed on dopamine. The region of the brain that responds to disgust is near the pleasure center (according to my wife). This is why some people "rubber neck" at traffic accidents, they kinda want to see something and they kinda don't.

When we should be disgusted the addled brain of the porn user may have dropped any sense of restraint seeking a bigger high. While I didn't cross this line, I know the foggy thinking of addicts.

I would definitely not keep watching an anime with the type of content you mentioned. Tell him it is off limits, or you are. Keep escalating the boundaries until he gets help or gives up.

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