Those who are single

-Loyalty
I want her to be a kind and openly caring for other people, but I also want a measure of exclusivity to me. She can't be flirtatious with any other men, but she can be friends with them.

-Uniqueness
She needs to have a few idiosyncrasies that make her easily distinguishable from her demographic.

-Fair
We split the bill early on in our relationship during dates and properly divide out responsibilities in our household later on.

-Goals
Has her own dream or goal that can be aligned with mine in some way.

-Reasonable
Accepts me in spite of my weaknesses, but knows to mention when I need to make changes. Likewise, I can accept her weaknesses, but I can mention to her when she needs to make changes without it escalating into an argument.

-Beauty
Her appearance shows she has adequate self-respect. On top of that, she needs to have an exotic appearance that is a few steps above conventional women.

-Petite
Not too short though and I wouldn't like it if she was at my height or taller then me.

-Assertive
Stands firm in her principles, while not being too stubborn. She is also direct and doesn't beat around the bush unnecessarily.

-Flexible
She isn't attached to traditions to the point of it being harmful, and is willing to change her viewpoint on matters if there is an sound argument that can be made against it.

-Loving
Openly shows her affection towards me appropriately, even in a public setting, and is willing to be close and affectionate without it having to be sexual.

 

I would agree. I honestly don't want her to be having too many guy-friends because I'll sort of feel like I'm competing with them. But I've had a few healthy relationships with girls that had similar interests that didn't have to be romantic. However, I feel like if you spend too much time with a girl in a supposedly "healthy" relationship it can easily progress to something more then that - and the same goes for vice-versa. Ultimately, for me, I won't have a problem with her interacting with her guy-friends as long as I don't feel it's stretching into my own territory as her boyfriend.

 

I would not be the right person to answer it since Im 33 years old and I have been alone my entire life so I cant really say what my ideal partner would be, but from what I feel I would want someone who accepts me for who I am and not who people want me to be, I don't want to be a trophy and object to show off or to be herded like an animal, I would want some one with a kind soul, a woman who is healthy and can give us children, a strong woman who does not take any shit.

 

I want her to be very smart, beautiful and she should do as I say. She should be patient. She should have good manners and treat me well.

 

A woman with a pulse would be nice In all seriousness though....

Personality (aside from caring and compassionate which should be a given)I am looking for someone who is straight-forward, confident, intelligent (street-wise and book-smart), animal lover, sincere in words/actions, empathetic, tactful, down to earth, sensual, and an open communicator. She is fiscally responsible as well. We treat each other as equals and not upstage/dominate each other.

Body: There are so many different types of women that I like. Height is not a deal breaker but I prefer women who are a bit taller than me (not very hard since I'm 5'6" lol). I have met plenty of good looking short women as well. She MUST take care of herself and be active. No drugs, chain smokers, and alcoholic party animals period.

 

I don't think that was the reason. I just don't see the good in fantasizing about a partner that is not in your life yet. It kind of just incites feelings of desire and stuff before it's time and can lead to you feeling lonelier or like you're missing out on something. IDK that's just how I feel.

 

This exactly was what I was going to say. Personally, I’ve daydreamt my life away for far too long. Whatever fantasy you cook up will not be met in reality.

 

It is like those situations where you THINK you know what you want. Then when you finally get what you THINK you wanted, it didn't turn out to be what you REALLY wanted.

 

LMAO!! That shouldn't be too hard to find.

 

But having an idea of the kind of person you want to be with is a good thing. You have to have an idea of the kind of person you would date or you'll just end up accepting anyone. I don't think you're fantasising if you want to be with someone who is kind or patient.

 

Here are a few that comes to mind for me:

- Trust that goes both ways. No bullshit attached. Along with that, I shouldn't be afraid to call her out on bs and vice versa. If you have someone who is important to you in your circle, trust needs to be a major key.

- Passion. She should go for her goals no matter what. And I don't want to be the one to hold her back from achieving what she wants in life. I'll be there to support her, no questions asked if needed.

- Fit and in shape. Health is important. Not only mentally and spiritually, but physically. I think she should always be taking care of her body and in shape. Lots of benefits that could go a long way.

- Be there for me no matter what. Everyone deserves to have a shoulder to lean on.

- Loving and affectionate. Not afraid to show off our relationship and that we're an item in a public setting. I think we all to some degree want to let others know who our gal or guy is.

- She passes the "Door Test". Now, this test is only a version that can turn into many. But basically, it tests to see if the girl you're taking out actually cares about you or not. I'll let this famous scene from "A Bronx Tale" explain it.