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hit the rock bottom of my life

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by jedimaster, Jul 12, 2018.

do you think it is possible to get rid of PMO forever and start a new life again

  1. yes

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  2. no

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  3. not sure

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  1. jedimaster

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    hey, guys plz help me.

    I lost all my energy and confidence to achieve the best things in my life. 10 years ago I was very disciplined and ideal kind of boy but today I have zero focus. I am not good economically. i failed in almost all competitive exams. i have no friends as most of the time people bullied me for my gratitude and goodness. i lost interest in caring for the society (even my close relatives, bro, sis, parents) because i feel cheated all the time. i lost all my current jobs. i feel that i am useless can not accompolish any thing new in my life. i was introduced to PMO by my college friends 11 year back at that time i have no sense what is good and what is bad. but when ever in life i face defeat, instead of retrospecting my mistakes i come to PMO for my resuce which was intially very relaxing but after some period of time, you found yourself in a deep never ending mess of life.

    please suggest me how i can regain my strength and laser focus. i want to change my life.
     
  2. jedimaster

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  3. Warrior36

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    Is your happiness important to you? Theres your answer. Bro you have no fuckin choice. You HAVE to do it. There is no way around it if you value your life one bit.
     
  4. jorg78

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    • Eat healthy
    • Get enough Vitamin D (EXTREMELY important)
    • Exercise (High intensity training or heavy weight training)
    • Consider a high fat diet (healthy fats) for testosterone boost
    • Try supplementing B6-supplement (100 mg) (Not tried it yet, going to try it after reading about it on another thread here)
    • Get 7-8 hours of sleep
    Do this mate and have patience
     
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  5. RndyBm

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    take it one day at a time. It's a blessing that you wake up in the morning. Don't look at what other people have. And think "why me".YOU have the power to change yourself. You say you have no motivation? Well come on here and talk to people. Read the forums. Really engage in this community. People will love or hate you - that's life. To all the bullies, they do it because they themselves are insecure so it gives them a high. Like Porn. But we know it's not a healthy high. So one day at time. You are at rock bottom. So really. The only way is up dude. And YOU have do it. No one can do it for you. Get up and take control of your life.
     
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  6. RndyBm

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    And honestly exercise is so important. Not only does it make you slightly more social, but once you start putting work in yourself, you start to see changes. Confidence grows. Try it. Don't think. Just do.
     
  7. Hey man, i can relate to a lot of what your saying. Havent had a GF for years.. and almost no friends..
    There are some improvements, i got a job and got rid of some terrible addictions (i was a chain smoker for years..), and i believe we gotta have hope for a brighter future. We gotta put the effort in it. Huge benefit is also the shift to a vegan lifestyle, and feeling "more myself" than recent years, i was pretty lost in life.
    I think also important.. you gotta be your own friend. I know, its nice to have some frienda out there, but if thats not the case, or too little.. gotta be your own best friend. Taking top notch care of yourself, being kind to yourself, make it as good as possible for yourself.
    Fight the good fight amigo, all the best!
     
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  8. live life trying

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    Hi There,

    I'm doing a hard reboot myself. I have the same feelings as you, I have a group of friends who worried a lot through the years about me.
    It totally suck balls, and sometimes I'm depressed as well, and I'm still a chainsmoker btw (I'm drinking alot of tea with alot anti oxidants).

    Sometimes (most of the time) I'm angry as hell.Sometimes I'm sad. Or annoyed. (Because everyone has an opion, which comes from a good place, but can be annoying because I don't want to take their 'judgemental' and a slightly different advice)

    And most of the time I'm melancholic and think about how sad I am and that nobody knows what I'm going through (The opposite is more closer to truth, I found out recently, by discovering this site full victims (Is it OK if I call us that?) of the porn industry and an over sexualised society we live in today..Recognise these feelings and just let 'em be (aka fight those insecurity's).

    Although energy is raging through my body their are loads of times I ignore it, let it go through my body (twtichin those mussel, lol) and just wanna be lazy wanna take sometime for myself (read a book, watch a movie, clean my house (or 1 aspect of it), which is ok 2.
    Sometimes I'm really low on energy (or emotional and grumpy and stressed), and that's because I forgot to eat or have eaten fat junk food (which is ok 2, with moderation).

    The tips that @jorg78 & RndyBm are giving are true, though. Find a sport that suits you wel: If you're not a sportfreak: just take a walk in your environment ( to the store (groceries for example), or drive to somewhere beautiful) and if yur really not a sportsfan: find a decent hobby (arts, crafts, gardening, gaming) and try to meet people (widen your social circle by doing things you love (going to concerts, collecting stuff, go to a bookreading, a scifi meeting, a protest, a nitting club for example (anything goes))

    I often try to remember how I used to look to life when I was a child. I'm really fond of that POV. It makes you look as 'naive' but I don't care anymore. Life and every aspect is amazing!!). Eat lots fruit. Vitamin C. Find another addiction, a healthy addiction.

    And when in need: call a friend. Text/whassap someone (try to act normal, and don't expect him/her to know everything about your situation, find a mutual interesting thing or activity you have in common). Or check in here.

    And most of all: sleep wel for at least 7-8hrs on a daily basis. I can go for 6hours for a day or 2, but when I go under it for a few days I'm coming highly unstable (crazy in the coconut) and a bit 'labile'. Sleep deprivation makes most normal people go loco and 'talkative' in public spaces.. Watch out 4 that!!

    Carry on Jedimaster! May the force B with you!
     
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  9. jedimaster

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    Thanks for the reply
     
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  11. jedimaster

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    Thanks for tge reply
     
  12. Abysmal habit

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    Being economically good , getting friends , never being cheated but never cheating ,making huge accomplishments in life ; all of these come at one price , HARD WORK .
    If you really want it , then start with your physique , develop a body that you feel great in , it doesn't have to be a buff guy with huge muscles , you just have to be satisfied with it while being able to do most physical activities with ease , then focus on getting social , bit by bit going to bars in the gym , having great relationships with your close relatives ( Mostly parent and siblings) Then focus on making your career , by now you are probably dreaming of this seemingly perfect life , but if you want it you need to work for it ; and i believe in you YOU can do it! go out there and hunt for strength and confidence , it won't come alone!
     
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  13. SaneNate

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    Don't talk to him like that!
     
  14. SaneNate

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    I followed like half of the list. Let me tell you that they helped me to an extent be confident in myself when the majority think I'm a wimp.
     
  15. Warrior36

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    Well Im sorry if i should have been more delicate, we all get motivated by different reasons.
     
  16. RndyBm

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    I don't think it was meant to be taken as harsh or rude. It's really there to help and motivate. Sometimes in life you have to be real and not wishy-washy with the facts. Because that only delays getting to where you need to be ! I know what vibe @Warrior36 was going for, sometimes people are too emotional with no benefit to them lol. Don't take that in a bad way. I was the same once.
     
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  17. Jackb97

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    Once you hit rock bottom the only way is up. Now get out their and make the world suck your dick.
     

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