What causes someone to be into BDSM porn?

I know that Sigmund Freud gave some explanations about this; I just don't know the explanations themselves anymore. They certainly involve the typical suppression of - often sexually motivated - drives and wishes as a child, which then end up in the subconscious. As you cannot satisfy the original drives (because you suppressed them - to satisfy them, you would have to admit them to yourself first) you seek out surrogate satisfaction and might find it in fetishes or weird sexual practices, the measure for the normal being what is actually useful for procreation.

BDSM will be a specific case of that.

Regardless of that, this doesn't necessarily mean it is a disease. Freud even considered kissing an act of abnormal sexuality, tied to subconscious processes (which is also why it doesn't make him homophobic when he considered homosexuality to be abnormal, too). If I remember right he considered sadism and masochism to be "perversions", but I don't know how he defined that, anymore.

All in all, you decide for yourself what is healthy and good for you, and what is not. Of course everyone here will agree that porn is bad in itself.

Moreover, you only have experiences with BDSM porn it seems. In that case, it probably is mainly the search for novelty when you become bored with the normal hardcore stuff, and you look for something more hardcore than hardcore. It doesn't necessarily mean you are a sadist. I had a short phase where I found that stuff exciting, too, but I could certainly live well without ever trying it in real life, having vanilla sex for the rest of it. Stay away from porn. Good to see you at 15 days, by the way.

 

I think sex is always a game of dominating and being dominated. More or less.

 

I think it’s rooted in control issues. I’ve always been attracted to spanking, medical, and prison porn since I can remember. I do remember getting turned on by women in prison movies from the 80s and early 90s especially the strip search scenes but even before then I think my fetish had developed. They just crystallized it.

 

I cannot say for certain but I believe people like BDSM for two reasons.
1. They enjoy having/not having control
2. Trauma
In the case of control, some enjoy the sensation of power. It's exciting and a huge adrenaline boost. And the same is true of the exact opposite. By not having control a person is left in the unknown, with a sense of mystery and maybe fear that prompts an extreme and exhilarating response.
Now for trauma it's a much more depressing reality. When someone is sexually assaulted and traumatized, often repeatedly, it becomes difficult for them to cope and be aroused by normal sexual activity. In a way, they expect nothing else but the traumatic or violent experience and seek to relive it. I should state that I am no expert in this, so I could be way off the mark. I have had this explained to me mostly by women who were assaulted.

 

The most important thing to remember is that being into BDSM is not necessarily the same thing as being into BDSM *porn* (which is the title of the thread). You can be into BDSM but give up porn, just like a vanilla person.

 

Actually, I am into BDSM. Not sure how I got into it. One of my youngest memories was watching a woman tied up, gagged and struggling on one of those sci fi shows. That was over 20 years ago.
When I got my first girlfriend, it progessed from petting to bondage with me tying her up. She was probably also inclined to be a submissive and called me 'master' at one point. I like the control, I like it better when she gives up control.

 

In my case trauma as one and the deep need of wanting to be devotional and giving myself up in total trust to extremes. The deep sensations and arousal and list one can feel by doing so. Being dominated beyond any control is highly highly erotic. Watching has some same effect.

 

I have this fetish, i like the feeling of overpowering my gf and her being submissive.... she also has this fetish so its a mutual thing so its hard to stop. It escalated to weirder things like rape roleplay (her pretending to not want it and pushing me away but i over power her). So many women have this fetish too... its hard to get away from it. Women love 50 shades, porn novels, etc. So many women like being smacked and choked... its hard not to indulge in my fetish when women want it.

 

So true!

 

Freud is mostly discredited in most serious academic circles as a serious representative of sexual and developmental sexual knowledge. Freud thought that most people with fetishes were sick and that they needed to be treated by specifically either he or his contemporaries.

On the topic of BDSM porn itself maybe it could be fetishizing relationships based on power dynamics.
Maybe you really just like how leather looks. If you're interested in the porn it may be worthwhile exploring it with a trustworthy partner or looking into further research.

Actual modern sexual research flies almost completely in the face of everything Freud laid out, and offers a much more neutral perspective of sexual development.

There are other people in these fields worth listening to: for instance: there is a website called "The Science of BDSM" you should look up.
the website lherein may look amateurish, but the webmasters are all serious psychological researchers with experience in and out of S&M lifestyles.