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Please explain to me how edging works

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by DeniHaven42, Jul 16, 2018.

  1. DeniHaven42

    DeniHaven42 Fapstronaut

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    So if he worked all night and spent his “down time” looking at porn, would that explain why he came home horny, was ogling me in my nighty, started out hard, but then didn’t really seem into it and couldn’t cum?

    He did cuddle with me and tell me he loves me before immediately falling asleep. I didn’t give him any grief about not finishing. Just figured maybe he was too tired (not that it’s stopped him on other mornings) ... kissed him and said, “tomorrow morning?” To which he responded with an emphatic YES.

    I’ve been googling for a connection between edging and DE ... haven’t come up with much.
     
  2. GoodFeeling

    GoodFeeling Fapstronaut

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    I have never done edging and I suffer from DE. I can cum watching porn in less than a minute but not PIV blowjob etc. ever. I will update my progress when I have sex soon.
     
  3. I think it is when one mastrubates and comes close to an orgasm and then stops again. Then continues and so on and go for long time without coming
     
  4. GoodFeeling

    GoodFeeling Fapstronaut

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    Even if he doesn't fap watching porn is still a big problem. I cut down on masturbation but kept watching porn usually before bed and that didn't help me at all.
     
  5. GoodFeeling

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    Unless watching porn without touching counts as edging?
     
  6. Les_Brown

    Les_Brown Fapstronaut

    Typically, we refer to edging as masturbating without reaching orgasm.

    If someone is watching porn, but not even masturbating, their brain's neurochemistry is still changing significantly to the point where they associate real sex and/or love with the actions/emotions they have seen in porn.

    While I would not define your SO's behavior as edging, I get the impression that you are more concerned of his DE and lack of deep connection during intimacy. The way you wish to be loved probably doesn't match up with the way porn actors/actresses "love" each other on set. So, this discrepancy will hinder his ability to give you the love you deserve as long as he continues watching porn.

    Does that make sense? Porn/fantasizing is a bigger problem than masturbation in my opinion.
     
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  7. GoodFeeling

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    Even though I despise porn after realising my addiction, 20 days later I'm sometimes craving to look at porn. It will take a lot of time to recover completely from this addiction but I hope I can already see big improvement in my sexual performance.
     
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  8. Edging is viewing P or anting sexual (for a long time) regardless if you are touching yourself or not it’s still edging. A lot of people will purposely view P or sexual content and not MO thinking that’s not considered a relapse.
     
  9. DeniHaven42

    DeniHaven42 Fapstronaut

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    Okay - so do guys with DE fake orgasms in order to be done with sex? Cuz I think that’s what he did this morning. Again ... he was plenty hard, but didn’t really seem into it ... after a while, he looked and acted like he came ... but not really ... still very hard, not much of the usual physical (I don’t know how to describe it ...”umph?”) of an orgasm which, considering he quit before coming yesterday morning, this should have been a really good one, I would think. And afterwards, nothing dripping out of me when I stood up and he stayed hard for quite a while. Also, I was squeezing his balls before he fell asleep and they still felt warm and hard instead of cold and soft like they usually do after he comes.

    Ack ... why do I try to figure this shit out. WTF is he doing at work? Why does my gut tell me something’s up?
     
  10. Usually, your gut tells you something is up because something, indeed, is up.
     
  11. Bubbles

    Bubbles Fapstronaut

    I say create a safe space and just ask him what's up.
     

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