Isn't it normal to fap if you're a teenager?

You have a very valid point and to an extent you're right. The problem is when people over do it at a young age. The problem with a lot of people here is that no one told them it was bad when they were young and it spiraled out of control. Addiction and health side effects don't spring up over night, it comes from years of abuse and most of us don't realise it until its too late. If you're aware at a young age, you can keep it in check so you don't end up with such a strong addiction and things like brain fog erectile dysfunction etc.

 

Pmo thoroughly messes me up bro. Gotta go against the meta haha.

 

Well I'm 16 and I've only been fapping for about less than a year, and its honestly ruined my life. I always feel shitty and i have no self control over myself like i once did, so thats why i pretty much joined nofap.

 

Fapping is a waste of time that gives what? An objectification of women/men? Small/high (person depended) risk of getting addicted? A very brief stress relief? Yes, yes and yes. On the other hand, you can 'waste' the same amount of time to, let's say, meet a girl, learn to play an instrument, work out etc. etc. etc.
Everyone does it? Become an everyman, then.
Yeah, fapping is so meh.

 

This is the premise upon which you have built your entire argument^. But then you ask us to give scientific evidence!

So @CGUY, let us assume that all the people you know in their 20s, used to masturbate like crazy as teenagers.

However, how can you state that among all the people you know in their 20s, none of them have a porn addiction?

Surely, you do not believe that all the people you know in their 20s, would voluntarily disclose their porn addiction?

Many will be unaware of it, others will be aware but in denial and most won't even know that it is a possible addiction.

 

Hello IGY, what the OP is saying here is that at his age, he is going through puberty and his harmone levels are not normal. That's the premises of the entire post. Besides that, Op I think if you need to control your hormones or you literally feel like exploding then just masterbate without any porn. It's much more safer. Problem is not with jacking off but with porn. Today's porn is bring made to make sure people keep watching it all the time, it's really addictive and bad for you. So, just jacking off will help you with the situation and if you want any scientific studies (at least inferences ) it's gonna take some time Because our kind right now is really limited, large sample surveys are not possible for the time being. Good luck


Sorry if you have trouble reading,English is not my first language

 

Sorry @CGUY, I cannot give you a scientific explanation and in fact I disagree with the others who have replied here. I think masturbation is a good thing, and not just for young guys. The difficulty (for me at least) was the extent it became bound up in my life with porn. Now I have found that giving up masturbation is helping me to stay porn free. (N.B. I'm 52 mind, not a young 'un at all.) If people can masturbate and not be tempted back to porn then great, go for it, but for guys like me whose sobriety is undermined by masturbation then we need to abstain.

 

Yes. Good point!: it is. I am sure

 

The op is actually 23 he's just talking about younger people

 

I think it's normal for teenagers to start exploring their own sexuality, and masturbation is often a normal part of that development. However, after a certain point, masturbation stops being about discovering your sexuality and becomes more of a compulsive, pleasure-seeking habit, and we all know where that leads. I'm not sure where to draw the line on that one, so it really is a good question, OP!

 

Hello @irock. The OP is not going through porn at 23 - so that is not the premise of his entire argument.

Furthermore, masturbating without porn is not the way to "control your hormones" as you claim. The problem includes masturbation, not just porn. Masturbation also produces a large release of dopamine, especially while edging and during orgasm. Over time it causes desensitization, owing to the almost universal "death grip". Self discipline is a virtue to be nourished. We need to get away from instant sexual gratification via masturbation and/or porn. Moreover, masturbation promotes an unhealthy view of sex and the bodies of others - that is all about our pleasure. Your comment is wrong, IMO.

 

No, not really. I'm 16 just now (today is my birthday) and honestly, fapping just destroys me. I mostly got addicted to fapping and porn was just my secondary. I only got addicted to fapping for 3 years until I quit.

I can honestly say it ruined my life. It made me feel like shit constantly and I didn't have the self control I have now. It made me a fucking joke to everyone back then as opposed to right now.

I honestly don't want to go back really. I really don't. I'll just have sex without busting nuts since I know you'll still feel like shit and I'll only do that with a girl I like, not some money hungry whore. I ain't going back. That was the last time.

-Captain Rex

 

Ya exactly if you wanna be average then fap away. You are hindering your potential, by fapping instead of improving your life or doing productive things

 

Yes it's quite normal, many of them doing that, no matter of the gender!

 

Remember that what's "normal" is just a statistical question; it's not related to whether it's good or not, healthy or not. In questions about what is normal, I like to think about how people would have handled it hundred, thousand or even ten thousand years ago. Did they fap? I don't know. Did they live in an over-sexualized society? Well, apart from some cults in ancient Greek I don't think so. Did they live in a society where sexuality was repressed, so the sexual energy was let out in destructive ways? Well, this might have been the case in the darker times of Christianity. But how is masturbation related to sexuality as a whole? Can it be an integral part of a healthy sex life? I don't know. I'm raising more questions than answers here.

 

Hey,

I would like to thank you for asking this question; I think it really needs the asking. The question, 'Is masturbating normal?' comes up quite frequently, and has been subject to heated debate. I am not sure what you mean by 'a scientific manner,' and whether the users who have replied above satisfy your condition, but I think it's more important to use your own judgement, both logical and moral, to make the decision, based on some known facts. I want to point out that the question italicised and the the one you've asked our, in my POV, vastly different. 'Is masturbating normal for teenagers?' Speaking from a moral standpoint, from a logical standpoint and from personal experience, I would say no. Actually, rather than whether it's 'normal' or not, what's really being asked is, 'should we do it?' We should not.

MOing is a highly addictive behaviour. It is an activity such that which gives pleasure, with little to no effort. Our brains our wired to get 'hooked on to,' such activities or substances which make the reward system of our brain go haywire, with minimal effort. I will not argue whether masturbation should be an aspect of a healthy lifestyle or not, it doesn't matter. Eating your vegetables is healthy, exercising is healthy, communicating with loved ones is healthy. How are these activities different from masturbation? They require a genuine effort. They require some amount of input, to be returned with a healthy and balanced output.

Look, what I do know is that masturbation pleasures you, imparting a 'high,' like any addictive substance or behaviour, and leaves you emptier than before. An impermanent feeling that leaves you miserable. At least, that's how it is for me. The teenage years is arguably the most vulnerable phase in growth. Raging hormones, peer pressure, rebellious streaks; it's a difficult time, no doubt. I don't know many teenagers with iron willpower and impeccable self-discipline, who can control their masturbating frequencies. But I, as a teenager myself, heavily doubt that masturbation is the only outlet to pent up frustration/energy. I whole-heartedly agree, we shouldn't suppress the urges. But I feel that there are better ways to release them. Creative ways, constructive ways. Try reading, writing, listening to music, making music, talking with friends and families, exercising, meditating, doing yoga; the hobby list is endless. There are ways to release pent up emotions, feelings, urges. Things that work.

With all due respect, Sir, I would humbly disagree with this line. Heh, well, all the addicts here come under the term, 'guys like me.' What I think is that masturbation itself can become an addiction, although pornography is... the monster inflicting greater damage, greater evil.

Happy rebooting, everyone.

 

Very detailed and well thought out answer. Nice.

 

Thank you for the comment. I appreciate the time you took to read it.

 

Youre welcome.