Cried a Lot Yesterday

Hi all, for me, PMO and Loneliness have gone hand in hand. I'm writing this post because I'm new to NoFap, I have a little initial streak of no PMO going, and yesterday I did a lot of crying about how I've always dealt with my PMO alone and how hard it is. It's not something I've ever been able to really talk with anybody about in real life, or get help from anybody in real life, and it still feels that way. I'm also still a virgin, never dated, don't have any friends, feel alienated from family, etc. I feel like I'm taking this on by myself. And so I cried a lot yesterday. I've noticed that whenever I try to stop PMO, I cry more, sort of feeling sorry for myself I guess. Anyways I'm happy I've joined NoFap, and thanks for listening

 

Thanks idek, I have actually been going to Meetup groups to develop some kind of social life, and that has been very positive so far, I even have one tonight! There is a Smart Recovery group tomorrow night near where I live which I think I am going to go to

 

Thanks Bijuu…. yeah crying does actually feel good doesn't it? It's like, "Oh I needed to get that out of me". As long as I don't dwell on things. It's like that sad, lonely life I'm crying about, that's not what I want anymore, and I'm going to make some changes! Cutting out PMO is one of them

 

Hi man, I feel exactly the same as you... I have no one, no friends, no family no girlfriend.... and that’s all I want in life is a girlfriend. Do you wanna talk?

 

Well... It's been a long time since I last cried...
I have realized that tears never help me and maybe that's why I stopped it...
Anyway...
I have watched one too many motivational videos to cry...
Whenever I am down and depressed a voice somewhere speaks to me to get up and do something about it... And sure enough I find one way or another to convince myself to try harder and try and get better... And it usually helps... When it doesn't I go outside and watch the kids playing, people walking, and birds flying in the park and be it two minutes or two hours later I always realize how blessed I am already and trust me, there are far better things than crying everytime you get down.

I just wanna say that I am not judging anybody and share what I feel about the subject only.

 

Your story resembles to me. What is your age?
I am a virgin, living away from family, have 0 friends etc etc;
Why to cry about it? Are you weak enough? Do you really need other people to pamper you?
Being virgin is not a big deal nowadays. Most of us are virgin, who cares... If you don't get peace to your mind, you virginity is of no use. The reason why you cry when you cut down porn is that, you have stopped your unnatural free/cheap dopamine that you were getting. Every good natural dopamine requires some sort of hardwork and we fail to do it and find a cheap source of it. You will need to understand that days are nothing. Soon you will cross a week then month the years. Consistency, faith and love is important. Rest of all, leave to the Lord and be happy. A lion walks alone.

 

Hi DRKK, I just sent you a profile message!

 

Hi Sherlock! Thanks for the perspective! I agree that it if one is sad, depressed, lonely about something in life, then it is far better to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, and it sounds like you are doing that!

 

Thanks 3333, appreciate your post! I am 35. I think the other day when I cried, it was more about regretting all the years I've spent doing PMO and how I could have been putting that time and energy in to other things and relationships. I could have had friends, girlfriends, real sex, better relationships overall. Being brutally honest, I really set myself back. I'm starting from scratch and it feels scary because I am doing it alone (aside from NoFap now!), and I just wish it wasn't this way. But I recognize that I have to start somewhere and I am already in a better place than I was two weeks ago. Crying could be a good sign, as long as I learn lessons from it and don't dwell