Quitting before my time nsfw

You get the satisfaction of knowing you accomplished a goal, that you were strong enough to rise above your own base desires. You get to grow.

 

Hello,

So what do you mean?

1) do you want to look for a relationship?
2) Or do you want to masturbate again?

1) is always good.
2) if you can handle it, then ok. You will soon see, if you go into the addiction again.

Just my experience on this: I remember that I was at 35 days hard mode in March this year, and at this time, I suddenly felt like I had lost interest sex at all, and my life felt somehow dull and meaningless.

Exactly at this moment, I relapsed and the whole cycle of the addiction began again.

First I thought "just once MO", but then, the orgasmic effect was so strong that it drew me fullyback to my old behaviour.

It took me many cycles until I came back very strengthened, as I am now.

Remember: The idea is not abstinence just for the sake of it.
The idea is to HAVE A MEANINGFUL LIFE, where you do the things you want to do.

 

Flatlining: "Many NoFappers report one or more periods of zero libido during their streak, especially in the 2-6 week period. Transitioning from an overexcited, always-eager libido to none at all can be disconcerting and even scary". http://www.nofap.org/glossary

Basically that is what you have reported: you have completed 5 weeks of recovery and you have "lost the appeal for sex, or looking at sex on the Internet and porn". When I had a longer streak than my current one, my flatline spanned weeks 3-10 (21 days - 70 days). We are all different, but the flatline is a sure indication that your brain is rewiring or recalibrating it self back to 'factory settings'. You are nearly half way through the process, so why stop now?

Furthermore, why delay your reboot by masturbating occasionally. Not only will that give you a hit of dopamine each time but you will get a chaser effect and the risk of masturbating more frequently (with or without porn) will increase. In no way does your continuation with your original commitment impinge on the other areas of your life you have transformed. Do yourself a favour and carry on as you are.

 

I totally disagree with the OP. Just the fact that you want to release yourself from this lends to the fact that you are being tempted. You made a promise to yourself that you would not PMO for 90 days. You are belittling that promise by dropping it after you have only gone a third of the way you promised yourself. Look at your username. You should become the Master of 90 days that you believe yourself to be. You should keep going based on principle.

If you were exercising and doing reps, would you drop that exercise because you thought you didn't really need it? No, lies! You need to exercise all parts of your body. This isn't just giving up PMO. This is a lifestyle change, and this will certainly lead you to be the man that you want to be.

That being said, I can't force you or anything. You need to make up your own mind. But I have offered my two cents so I'm happy. haha

Also, as IGY points out above me, I have also flatlined and it always comes back hard for me. Watch out, your feelings are a trap!

Good luck,

-cras

 

Aaaah, that's what you call Flatlining! Interesting. And yes, I remember now, it happened to me in April, during the 5th week of hard mode -- and then, I relapsed.

This time, I am prepared for it. Currently in week 3, full hard mode. BTW, I am feeling great, I have never done so much before, and the best is: I am relaxed, I even have SPACE AND TIME !!

 

Short answer, don't, there is this thing called chaser effect. You will think that judge one wont harm, but it will slow your rebooting progress so far. End your 90days challenge and after that decide what to do, but at least be truthful to your own goals.

 

What's the point of asking the same question again? Are you waiting for someone to come along and give you 'permission' so you don't have to take responsibility for it? Do whatever you want, but it is YOUR choice and YOU will have to assume responsibility for it and YOU will have to live with the consequences (which I outlined above in post #4).