I need help with meditating

I am not completely sure how it works either. What I do though is just close my eyes, focus on slow and deep breaths, and then let my mind wander.

 

You will not necessarily feel any different after meditating. There is no "goal" for meditation. It is simply a focusing on the breath (or mantra or similar point of focus). It is a way of bringing your attention from the cascading thoughts in your wandering mind to the simplicity of merely being alive.

You might observe that after practicing meditation, especially if you practice consistently over time, that when you are focused on your breath you are not experiencing the discomfort, pressure, anxiety, etc...that accompany most or all of your wandering thoughts.

With consistent practice, you will likely improve on your ability to sustain focus on your breath, and improve on gently returning your focus when it wanders, as it always will.

I highly recommend a book called Wherever You Go, There You Are as an easy introduction to meditation and mindfulness. That's awesome that you are getting into it, as I find it really beneficial in my own life.

 

exactly

 

When I feel I’m doing it correctly I feel a sense of flow. Eliminating the random thoughts and just be.

 

Not an easy task and I still have not conquered the task more than 10 minutes.

 

I am 29 .. watching porn since I was 12 .
Never new I was addicted .. never heard of nofap.. just going on..
I tried to stop this and believe me you can hold it for a week.. but when weekend comes .. it's all back and you'll think it's ok to stop for 5 days and I'll watch now and get satisfaction and then from tomorrow onwards I'll try for two weeks..
Well tomorrow is Sunday .. you'll do it again thinking you'll start from Monday..
In next week you'll do on thursday by accident and then you'll think ooooppss .. ok.now it's done so I'll again start from Monday and the you'll watch and satisfy yourself on Friday Saturday and Sunday.

Now on Monday you'll think ohh I'll start from 1st of next month it's only 4 days away and swearing this time..

And it's all going to repeat and I'm next month you'll block some websites .. then stop watching youtube for some time and this sort of things you'll do whole year.

Trust me.
I found that two year ago that there is something not proper while having sex with my gf..

And after that two years i kept giving excuses that I'll stop from today fromMonday from next month and many more.

Now it's been 20 days and I have stoppedit all. Nothing at all.. and now I don't imagine sex at my office.. I don't imagine sex in bus... I don't imagine sex whilecommuting..

The secret is..
I started reading a novel. It doesn't give me time to think anything else. I come from office at 5 and get into that novel and I read it till 8 .. have dinner and again back to it.. call my friends on phone for time pass... Then back to novel.. sleep at 1am and wake up at 7 am .. back to novel.. I don't watch TV.. I don't watch movies on laptop.. infact I haven't opened laptop in days.. I read on Kindle so there is no option of just googling stuff and distraction by anything..

I chose a novel..
The mistborn triology..
It has 3 books in series.. and then three more book series .. and then 2 books as prequel..
Total 8 books..
I have reached on 3rd in 20 days..
By the time I complete 8.. 90 days will be passed..

Also the book.is great..

My suggestion: reading is excellent habit. Select some book with long series and get yourself involved into... Also this book has no porn or sex stuff so you'll not reach down your trouser while reading it.

It helped me a lot and I already see changes in my routine..
I need less sleep.
I am attentive at office .. I feel a new energy in myself..

Try it out.

I might not have explained in some attractive fashion and with good vocabulary.. but trust me it has helped me ..
And surely will help.you.