needs some help : what's the solution for boredom ?

The trick is to not masturbate.
Simply don't.
Do you want it enough?

 

This.

Also, have hobbies.

 

I think your behavior is (sadly) normal, because at times I still tend to have the same low motivation toward thinks I know I like a lot (because I liked them in the past).

The answer is first to do anything needed to quit PMO so your motivation for real things can kick in again.

Second probably you're focused too much on killing time with "hard" activities. I mean I like programming too, but as you know it's mentally consuming. Thinking actually burns calories.

So your brain automatically has to choose between instant gratification or what's hard work (regardless of the fact that you like it). What do you think it's going to choose in a PMO-addiction condition?

So as I say, tend to occupy your time with productive or positive activities that aren't so burdensome at first. And of course, try not to get another vice, like playing too much videogames.

I suggest exercising, because it's never bad to exercise, plus it's a hard activity but once you start, you can't stop. I mean you can "stop running" for instance, but you have no reason not to say "the rest of the time I had planned to run, I'm going to walk". Plus you can listen to audiobooks in the meantime, etc.

Idk, just suggestions based on things I do. I also like playing music (learning an instrument) which is hard but super fun.

To sum up: main goal = quit PMO.

 

Since joining, I quickly figured out the fact that you (need) to fill up your days. My personally, I've taken up a few hobbies since I've joined:

- I borrow books of interest from the library ("lucid dreaming" is extremely interesting, just Google
- I meditate
- I play games for an hour each day
- I cook basic meals
- I workout

If I'm ever bored after that I'll usually listen to music, take another cold shower (clears my mind), go on NoFap or start a conversation with a friend. Good luck, stay strong.

 

I think that boredom is a serious issue. Even if you have hobbies, it doesn't make it go away. I'm very active at the moment and have much things to do, but when the night comes and I'm not feeling tired enough for sleep, I often stay online and that makes relapsing so easy.

And boredom can strike you suddenly. If I have been very busy with something and then suddenly a more quiet (and boring) day comes, I'm not mentally prepared for it. I start to feel bored and I have my computer on. And so it goes...

 

Could it be that your mind is just rationalizing and convincing you that you "need" a fix?

 

Being bored is the worst. When you are alone and with nothing to do you are most likely to touch yourself i recommend doing something productive instead. Either work out,work,study or read a book.

 

This lack of motivation you're describing comes directly from porn addiction. Dopamine is what is supposed to motivate you, drive you, but you got so much of it from porn that you are desensitized. So, normal activities don't seem worth it, because the small amount of dopamine that you will get from them is not enough to drive you.
In order to resensitize yourself, you have to stay away from over-stimulating activities such as porn or drugs.
Couple that with TotalLifeChange's advice and your motivation will come back.

Good luck!

 

Absolutely, I've been experiencing this recent. I just have an instinctive desire to do things now, to do things that I normally would procrastinate about. I would still like to be better about it. But I just notice a much stringer desire to get up and do stuff, start my day, run errands, etc. And I'm sure it's largely do to kicking PMO out of my life.

 

Best news ever. I've been struggling with procrastination like mad as I just couldn't get motivated. Hearing this gives me a lot of hope.