Is Porn addiction a cause or a symptom?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Porn Free Wanderer, Jul 23, 2018.

  1. bravastan

    bravastan Fapstronaut

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    Well said. Defining oneself can have its upsides but also downsides. It helps shape a context with certain guideline which we can use but it can also halter us to do something outside those guideline for the sake of the identification.
     
  2. Great thread started by PornFreeWanderer. I guess my addiction changed over all the years I have been fapping(over 55 years). At first no porn at all was needed,not even a picture.Just being young numb and full of cum.From there it progressed to pictures in magazines, Playboy and on up.
    This post got me thinking about many years ago when I was 18 or so working in a garage. One of the box trucks we serviced had the inside of the truck walls covered with Playboy centerfolds by the driver. I can't tell you how many times I jerked of back there. Years later I went to work in a shop,the guys had done the same thing with the walls in the locker room. Many times when I worked the night shift alone I jerked off back there. I was married at the time and I'm sure it affected my desire to have sex when I went home.
    Just yesterday I relapsed by edging. I felt I was going through a flatline and wasn't so eager to have sex with my GF. My mind got me thinking if I watched porn I would get horny. Well I didn't ejacualte but sure wasted hours that could have been put to better use.All I wound up with is a sore dick and guilt today. I do agree that if you are horny and and have no chance of having sex a quick MO is better than doing what I did.
    I realize know that at my age I am addicted to porn much more then I am addicted to having an orgasim.Seems I enjoy the hours of dopamine being released while edging more than having actual sex which never lasts as long.Thanks for helping me realize this.
     
  3. For me, understanding myself as an 'addict' helps to re-inforce the importance of abstaining and importantly resisting any urge to drink the first drink, take the first hit or click on the first porn site because from then on a fire starts to burn. My job as a recovering addict is to not light the fuse because now i understand how difficult it is to put that fire out and honestly i don't think i have another binge left in me, i feel because of the way i mixed drugs with porn it would be like a death knell.

    Paradoxically though one has to have that vision in their mind of being a 'clean living guy' as something to maintain and aspire to every day despite sitll identifying as an addict.
     
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