Having fetishes pre and post PMO

I don't know.

Yes. Certainly before I saw porn.

I don't know.

I don't know the answer to this either. I don't think so necessarily, but I think it's harder to eliminate a really deep-seated fetish than one that's porn induced. It depends on you and it depends on the fetish.

I think few of us here has a fetish that hasn't been escalated by porn at all. So mostly we can shrink our fetishes down to size by doing NoFap. I also think once we're rebooted and down to "bedrock" fetish it's possible (if we want to) to avoid, move away from or rechannel a fetish.

 

I believe that innate fetieshes are ones that you have even before you develop sexually, I have a fetish that I remember bein into when I was 4-5 years old. It's still with me now and I love my fetish. I am still able to have vanilla sex but when searching porn it's always about my fetish.

A lot of people on here talk about picking up fetieshes from their porn use and from my knowledge on the brain I can totally see this happening. It's called neuroplasticity. Look it up in regards to sexual taste. Basically whatever you are exposed to for long periods of time will require your brain. So if you happen to find trans porn on a mad binge session and finish to it. Your brain slowly wires to want more. This starting a cycle, hardwiring it into your brain.

 

I remember getting excited by trying on my mother's bathing suits and my sister's running tights when I was prepubescent. I also was excited when we got speedos for middle school swim lessons. No surprise that I have a spandex fetish 40 years later. It certainly came prior to porn. At this point, I'm done with porn, but the fetish persists. I desire nothing more than to wear tight shiny spandex in public. I desire it more than actual sex.

 

Anything that became apparent in childhood or before porn or masturbation was naturally occurring and will stay will stay with you. You can either embrace it and integrate it into your sex life if your partner is willing to experiment, or if you are uncomfortable with it you can work on conditioning yourself toward more vanilla things - which can also be done, by ignoring the fetish and only allowing yourself arousal & O from regular things. The fetish will remain in the background though, and every time you act on it, the fetish is reinforced and enjoyment of 'regular' things can be compromised to some extent. It really depends how you (and your partner or potential future partners) feel about the fetish.

Mine is sex with women. In particular I find female genitals highly arousing. I generally class myself as bi-sexual but since I have no interest in a romantic or emotional attachment with women (I only want to emotionally involve myself with men), I guess technically I'm straight, but with a bi-sexual fetish or 'kink'.

 

I assume you get arroused from that fetish, right? If you stop masturbating and even touching your Billie when you are arroused and think that this is something you dont like, then when you stop masturbating and IF you manage to avoid even touching yourself (honestly, good luck) then it is possible for you to slowly loose interest in your fetish. Cant tell you if it will go away completely just yet, but you should at least stop getting arroused each time. Speaking from my own experience

 

I am coming to see that these pre porn fetish fantasies were programmed into me in the same way as porn. It is normal for a pubescent boy to be turned on by seeing scantily clad women in public or in magazines. I came of age in the 80s and had no access to real porn. I started masturbating to pictures and mental images of women I'd seen wearing sexy clothes. I associated sexual pleasure with images of wearing sexy clothes like sheer tops, thongs and shiny leggings in public. When I finally got a girlfriend, I was unable to perform from masturbating so much. Although I am still masculine and straight I am turned on by wearing things like shiny leggings and thongs in public as well as being with women who wear such things in public. i think I programmed myself by the images that I masturbated to.

 

I certainly remember mine being around at 4 or 5 and it's probably always going to be there.

It's fine, i believe that in a pre porn era fetishes were just another turn on. Nowadays, like my sitatuation, it becomes the only thing I watch. My porn habits are not normal; they're not regular sex, sometimes they dont involve nudity. After O I wonder what the hell i'm watching.

I have recovered from PIED before, and what I'll say is after a vouple of weeks Hard Mode my temptations and fantasies became less about the fetishes and more normal. I believe that Fetishes can be fun in the bedroom. Just dont let it dominate.