i said the wrong thing

You shouldn't call them your friends because friends don't do that sort of thing. You shouldn't have said it. They might tell people you said it or they might even rape her and say you told them to do it. Or it might come to nothing.

But why did you say such a thing in the first place?

 

Ok... It did indeed sound like a stressful situation and kids can be cruel. I hope nothing comes of it. But rape is no joke and you should try to avoid the saying such things again.

 

Your profile says you're from India.

A place where rape has become a very serious problem.

Be more responsible with your words.

Even if you weren't from India, it was still the wrong thing to say.

 

Honestly, I didnt take this story as seriously as the other people in this thread did. Not to say they're wrong, because I might be the one who's wrong. But to me, I knew exactly what you meant when you said "why dont you go rape her instead." I understood instantly that you didnt mean that literally and that it was a hyperbolic, sarcastic kind of statement, not meaning literal rape, but rather using the word rape as a synonym for "bother."

So... to me, I wouldn't ha e thought anything of it if I heard you say that in context. Out of context, idk, I probably still would have just thought it was a little odd or wondered but wouldn't have thought it was a big deal.

I think to worry that someone might actually rape that girl and then blame you is kind of ridiculous. I dont see how that would possibly happen from that situation at all. But even if it did, you obviously didnt mean it literally and it was just a poor choice of words, and I doubt anything will come of it.

 

If the girl heard you and you're worried about it though, maybe you should just apologize and explain in case she didnt understand. I'm sure she would understand if you explained it. Although I guess that might depend a lot on culture and how you were brought up. Some people dont understand that kind of sarcasm or whatever you want to call it, but personally I understood it immediately and didnt think it was weird.

 

@Castielle pretty much nailed it. Its not the most politically correct phrase, but its far from the end of the world. You didnt mean it in a sick way and im sure everyone understands that. It seems clear to me and i think youre over thinking it. Stuff happens.

 

Never back down from what you've said when in a hierarchical social setting. Allow people to judge what you said or take it out of context and its over. Stand by it and if they even hint at judging you for it let it be known to all around that thier cranium does not have the capacity required to understand how things work witg contextual language/situations.
If people come to you in genuine confusion or seeking understanding then by all means then educate them but be wise to which is which as people like to catch you off guard and sneak in through the cracks.
Anyway I say terrible things all the time even without cause as I have a dark sense of humour. I wouldn't worry about it, it's usualy the worry that affects the way your respond that in turn perpetuates the issues.