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why is masturbation to porn bad

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by subway14, Aug 5, 2018.

  1. subway14

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    so you say here that "there’s nothing wrong with masturbation" but why do you want to avoid masturbation to porn then? like why is there a difference if you masturbate to porn or to something else
     
  2. ClaudeDuval

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    There's a lot of problems with that... porn turns into a progression just like a drug user. At first a user might look at breasts or something and then it leads to more and more bizarre things because it's a progression. Just like the heroin user can use a little at first and get high, over time they start injecting and using larger amounts to get the same effects. Women have reported getting into extremely violent porn, many men end up looking at things they never would have thought of looking at(maybe trans people). It warps your view on sexuality as well as makes you look at the opposite sex through a pornographic lens. After being a porn addict for so long I never viewed women as people, I started looking at women like they were a sexual object. Instead of thinking "Hey shes really nice, I'd like to see her again" it turns into "Look at her blank... Id love to blank her blank mmh" blah blah like some kind of creep.

    Its also ruined marriages where men end up choosing porn over wholesome romance with their wives/Gfs, how can your wife compete with the amount of craziness that is in porn? Then the woman thinks "He doesn't love me... Am I not pretty enough?" and gives her low self esteem which is totally fu**ed up. Thats another thing, porn can spill over into your sex life... I started having extremely rough sex with my GF, nothing even romantic involved, just porn sex... and it escalated to weird BDSM themes(even rape fantasy). I wanted my GF to do things I saw in porn and she wanted me to do things she saw in porn(which I wasn't comfortable with). It's just a mind fu** to say the least... Some men even end up with erectile dysfunction because normal sex with an actual girl isn't as exciting to them after being exposed to porn.

    The list goes on of bad side effects... I dont have a problem with masturbating(although some people need to go completely monk mode), sometimes I masturbate when my GF is away but I'll masturbate with her on the phone or something. I try not to fantasize about others... it could lead to cheating and I dont need that in my life. This isn't a minority of people either, there's a reason more men want to try anal sex with their GFs because they see it in porn. There's a reason so many women now DEMAND rough rapey sex with choking, etc they see it in porn.
     
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  3. ClaudeDuval

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    Also it can lead to worsening of depression, time consumption, and by viewing such material you're supporting an industry that preys on young little girls right out of highschool who are in poverty. Porn pimps promise the world to these young girls and then get them wrapped up in a disgusting industry... Many end up on drugs. Sex trafficking never went away... I know this because I know someone that was being "groomed" for porn by a so called "talent scout" aka porn pimp. There's 4 billion reasons to stop watching porn. Were all trying to learn to love and be better human beings... you cant do that with porn infecting your mind. Please do not try and justify it, porn fu**ed up my life and the same can be said for many many others.
     
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  4. RndyBm

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    Don't masturbate to porn because the pleasure you're seeing isn't you getting it. Its the people on the screen. And most of it is exaggerated. Masturbation with your mind leads to masturbation to porn, if you have a habit of it like I do. So I try and abstain from both. It's all on the same road. Just let it flow natural with wet dreams xD
     
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  5. JohnnyVercetti

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    I'll give you my personal journey...

    Masturbated since I was nine and a half. At 12, I found my first porn VHS in the cubboard. The first ever scene I saw was amatuar with two guys banging this guys wife. Got off in like 20 seconds.... fast forward to now.. I started on 'rough choking sex, which led to weird and warped fake choking /strangulation scenes. I then incorporated these into my sex life. Shit got weirder and weirder.

    I ended up seeing prostitutes and practicing these things on them. Shit got even weirder... letting chicks pleasure me while wearing fishnet stockings in the woods for a adrenaline boost.

    Now im off porn for the past 19 days and never going back to it. Popped my first boner over a real girl infront of me instead of from watching porn.
     
  6. subway14

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    so you wanna say that if you watch porn you will get addicted to it for sure? and there's no "healthy" way to watch it?

    and if you watch porn but don't masturbate? is that also wrong?

    (p.s. I've never watched porn in my life, I just ask out of curiosity)
     
  7. SensualLettuce

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    There's probably an objective viewpoint to this as a result of detailed scientific research, but from a subjective one being my own, the problem I've had with porn is how it affects the psyche and how much it affects a persons emotional responsiveness. I've had POCD and HOCD thoughts as a result of Porn and I've been depressed for it to. I don't think masturbation is automatically healthy either because it depends on the person. For example, I can't musturbate without ending up embracing some perverted thought. I could go into more detail, but from my point of view the risk factor is what the individual needs to be concerned with.
     
  8. JohnnyVercetti

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    Here is the deal..

    I don't know if this relates to statistics or scientific facts but I really do believe porn installs new fantasies (which could be bad) for instance - cuckold porn is becoming popular nowadays. As a result, I have seen 'swinging' becoming a more popular hobby for couples. Ted Bundy cited porn being his entry gate into him becoming a serial killer.

    What about women? Porn is dangerous for women too. If you look on 'popular porn' chosen by women, all you'll see is cuckold scenarios. This might actually explain the amount of hypergamy we're experiencing in this age from the female species. Also, you only see ripped/good looking men in porn. So women are being conditioned to only be attracted to these bodies and so are men vice versa.

    I am also against sex aids now. For instance, if a female gets used to 9 inch dildos, how will she feel a connection/pleasure with her man who is only 5 inches? The dildos/fucking machines are getting more advanced, some women actually prefer these machines over having intercourse with a real man. A fucking machine can go for 10+ hours, how could a man ever compete with that?

    Porn + sex aids need to definitely be avoided (unless you're using a fleshlight to avoid death grip)
     
  9. guitopher

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    The book "Your Brain on Porn" by Gary Wilson was a real eye-opener for me and explains this topic in depth.
     
  10. RndyBm

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    Reading this and without seeing the PS part of the question, sounds like someone who wants to watch porn and not feel guilty or ashamed. Well that ain't never gonna happen. Because the very nature of the premise is shameful. And it is in a fantasty world. Things you see are so "outthere" its like. You casually see girls get undressed after being asked to. Or casually just in a gym locker and a hot girl walks in and gets down on her knees. That shit doesn't happen in real life, (well VERY VERY VERY rarely lol) and that is what makes porn such an addictive thing to watch. The fact that there are no boundaries and everything is on show. So by watching it. Even if you don't masturbate to it. Eventually you will start to believe what you're seeing. Like those orgasms really are real. Like women all have to look like that or do those things to get you turned on. Its a load of bollocks frankly. Stay well away from it. There is no good in any of it. I can vouch for that, being an avid viewer, thus my brain and how I look at women now is so terribly warped. It will take time to heal this.
     
  11. Nantz

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    Just like drinking and smoking can go very well together for an alcoholic, when coupled together pornography and masterbation can create a very very strong addiction. Sure there are a few people out there who can use and not get addicted but for people like the ones who use this sight, porn and masturbation has literally become an addiction that has began to run there life. So my answer to you about why masturbation to porn is bad is because it can become a numbing and controlling drug for the brain.
     
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  12. SensualLettuce

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    Yep. NoFap is one hell of a roller-coaster, and you can feel very different for It in good ways, bad ways but ultimately it's fulfilling. One hell of a ride, but obviously worth it.
     
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