Is it wrong to not seek sex unless there is some deeper connection?

I too am a virgin (24 years old). Ive had many chances to have sex with girls but I never did. Ive never kissed a girl either LOL. Yeah peer pressure is a thing. I havent done PMO in awhile. Ive had so many wet dreams and dry dreams. Lately ive been wanting to have "get it on" with real women I meet. I sometimes fantasize about it too. I met this one girl at work who was literally jumping on me touching me alot. I was getting interested but I found out she had a man and kids at home. My mother raised me with the values of not "messing" with women that have a boyfriend, husband, kids, etc. What I recommend is do what you honestly feel and not make a decision that is influenced/contolled by being damn horny LOL or peer pressure.

 

I would try and take the pressure off of yourself a bit. You dont have to search for someone just for sex. The fact that you said you wouldn't do it with just any girl shows how much you care about a person for who they are, not just for their looks.

Your sexual desire for sex is what is confusing you. I understand when your a virgin, it's hard to not listen to peer pressure, and your own bodies urges. Try and wait until you find the right person though, because you need to trust them enough for them to be your first. If you just do it with anyone, you might regret it later in life.

 

I've never really been that bothered about sex (unsurprisingly I'm a virgin) and the reason, it took me a while to figure out, was that I found porn before I was a teenager. I always found someone to have a crush on, in order to stay grounded, if you can call it that... But I never acted upon any of these crushes until the last 3 or 4 years, and I still dont envision myself actively looking for sex because I genuinely don't think I'm ready, even if I am nearly 30. Only YOU can set your own pace.

 

Why is everyone so obsessed to losing their virginity nowadays ? Does it make you smarter? Or more succesful in life? Does it grant you money?
To me virginity looks like a badge of honor..

 

Love and sex are separate things, only you choose how you explore those things. Wanting to wait until you have an intense connection with someone is just as valid a goal as setting a goal to get to 100 partners by age 30, as long as it is a choice you made.

 

Yes I do I want to have a relationship that isn’t based of sex I’m looking for intimacy I haven’t pmoed for a yr and a half I too feel pressured to meet more women and start courting women. But I’m becoming more aware that all this pressure is self inflicted and living by the standards of society hasn’t gotten me this far so now I’m at the point of just taking action and putting myself out there and being more social.Specfically building more relationships with the opposite sex and not being concerned whether they will be my future wife or not lol Lol These are good realizations and it’s good that we aware of these feelings it will help lead us further on our journey know that people will continually question our lifestyle and that’s ok they don’t know what’s best for us only we do