how do you deal with anger?

I have anger issues too, but I've found that it gets worse when I just let things fester. If I don't stand up for myself enough, I'll start feeling helpless and hopeless, and that makes my anger issues worse. Anger is simply the other side of the same coin as sadness. Practice being more assertive all the time, and taking action and speaking up when people do things that upset you will hopefully make you feel better. If people get angry and refuse to listen to you and meet your needs, that's liable to make you even more angry and want to literally fight them, though.

 

Putting yourself in his shoes is definitely a good start, as you're starting to calm down. Once you're calmer, perhaps you can calmly and respectfully tell him your perspective so he can put himself in your shoes?

 

When talking about dealing with rage, it is best to do what has already been mentioned above my post, as well as take an outsider approach. You do not want to be manifested in the anger, but instead, view the anger as an object. Realize why you are angry, and whether truly being angry will help in the long term. It may be good in the short, but always think about the long term.
Don’t suppress your emotions. I’ve learnt from Headspace (meditation app), couple of books and lectures that instead of trying to suppress emotions and being at war with yourself, you should realize what emotions and thoughts truly are. You cannot force them away, but you can realize why it’s there, and how to formulate a correct response which would not ignore the emotion you’ve just received.
In terms of dealing with future anger issues, I recommend meditating once everyday. Make those meditation sessions based on you truly understanding where strong emotions come from. I also recommend listening to lectures on YouTube as well as reading books on anger management, and understanding these emotions. The best way to solving something is to first understand what you are trying to solve, figuring out what your end goal is, then successfully executing the steps necessary knowing why you took each step.

 

No anger issues here but that's mainly because i'm rather good at mind games. I don't have an anger problem because i become the problem. Works well when you have lots of time on your hand like me!

If i don't, however or simply because you don't want to waste energy, nothing quite beats the joy of not giving a damn. It's extremely simple but not easy at first. Just realise that nobody is worth your time. You are numero uno. The alpha and the omega. La priorité. Always.
*poof*
No anger.

At least, that's my trick. Option 2 takes a while to develop to be fair. You're either born with Option 1 or if not, Option 2 is your only go to.

Of course, there are lots of other ways like listening to music, breathing deeply, exercising, jogging, punching a wall or you know... the causative agency of said distress.

Violence is never a permanent answer though and it's practically the very thing you want to avoid. Chewing gum also works actually though i never had to try it. I only have 3rd party testimonies on that method.

 

Wow! Some issue I don’t have. I can’t believe it.

 

I will confess this
That in my head I have imagined beating the shit out of my bullies
I have even thought of stabbing them with compass needle.......
But then I realized that their behavior is same with everyone......they are not targeting me only
And later they become normal with me
But I believe to utilize my anger to learn fight combats.......
I have improved my patience capacity.....
I believe in defense mechanism
If someone seems to be a threat ......then I will defend myself
I want to buy a punching bag
And I would like to punch and kick it daily
......and rest I leave on god....
In this way I have controlled my anger

 

Wow! Did you get arrested for that?

You could try mental noting or anger management classes.

 

I'm too stoned to get angry

 

Ok that's not so bad I guess... I thought you attacked someone you didn't know.

Are you worried you'll end up hitting your SO when you get into a relationship?

Having a quick meditation when I'm angry helps me.


https://www.mind.org.uk/information...l-health-problems/anger/treatment-and-support

 

I was the same way when I was a kid, still am some days. One thing that helped was working off all that anger through exercise. I used to channel it through karate lessons, then after I quit it was through a lot of MO. Now that I have neither I need to find a new outlet for my pent up anger.

 

I don't know thats my problem too.But since i stopped this pmo.I feel less angry on anyone else.But sometimes when i feel angry i do 3 or 4 km running with full power.Anger is type of energy,Its depend on u how u react on this power.Use it in productive way or destructive way... @tweeby

 

I have problems with anger too but i had gotten better with years. It really helps alot putting oneself in position of the other person if youre angry at them. Many times there is nothing you can do, situation is just objectively bad, i just get burned off, exhausted from feeling angry. Thats where anger is most damaging in my life. Finding distraction helps to a degree though. Expressing anger keeps things level, to not escalate, but it can be bad as much as good, cause it pushes people away and it can become a habit so you start to behave angry even when youre not really angry.