Staying calm during the 90 day challenge

Hey all!

I have just completed 15 days of my 90 day reboot. This is the longest streak for me since I joined NoFap and probably the second longest in my life (I'm not very sure about this one).

Anyway, all I have to say is that the results are great and I'm feeling relieved and fresher each day that goes without PMO. I have temptations and I did give in once last evening (for about two minutes I watched porn, and quickly realised that this was my shitty life coming back and that I didn't want this again and I decided to quit - I did not edge or M).

One thing I have realised during this period is to stay calm and relaxed about quitting PMO. I see that most people are logged onto the NoFap.org website for help all the time. Many people are looking at their widgets and counting their minutes every moment. Some folks get way too much into the finer details about what is happening to them while quitting PMO or about how to avoid PMO with a myriad advice and what-not. What's the point in trying to quit PMO while being hooked to thinking and writing about NoFap all the time? It is as un-productive. Seek help in yourself and choose Nofap.org as a last resort. The reason why we need to quit is to fulfill our goals in life or probably create new ones. Don't tell me your goal in life is to quit fapping - well only then, it makes sense to be writing so much about it. There is already enough said on the internet about this addiction. We all know the truth, but we like to deny it and wait for somebody to reiterate it for us again and again. We are just being lazy. You know what I mean?

The reason I have been upto this challenge is posted in this link as the first message. Do check it out: http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthread.php?26233-Starting-the-90-day-reboot-And-for-good

I am definitely interested in talking more about how I feel but I'd like to see at least a month pass by before I start talking. For now, my mind is more peaceful, satisfied, and my goals are clearer. That's about it. I can't say anything else about memory, girls looking at me, wits, smartness-ness etc and every other bull crap that people are always looking forward to while doing their reboot. I think we should just stay focused on the fact that we got to quit PMO , and our life goals - every thing else will take its turn and time.

Also, whoever came up with this 90 day reboot, I'd like to say Thank You. Cuz 90 days seems like a long way and I guess, it would really mean REBOOT.

Stay cool.!

 

Ok. So I relapsed today again. This is going to be a tough week ahead as I have a lot of alone time coming up.

How did I relapse?

I ended up watching the documentary 'date my pornstar' as I was reading through comments on NoFap. That lead to me checking out some stuff online and I ended up spending a solid couple of hours watching homemade porn. It sounds funny to me how my mind was triggered but lesson learnt - No need to spend time on the computer other than if it is a NECESSITY. I don't need further education on pornography or porn addiction and related stuff as I have already watched a ton of them. I need to stay away from the screen.

Keep it cool, and easy. No need to worry. I HAVE made a huge progress in reaching 16.5 days without a relapse. This is my best so far. Aim high and keep it going.

I will tend to relapse again in the next couple of days but I am going to keep away from my computer unless it is necessary. I even have my music on MP3 player. So goodbye, and good riddance.

 

thechangeofdavid - i agree with you on keeping a media diet. i'm currently mostly at home, trying to focus on music and some reading. so it is very easy to get hooked to the internet and which is why i think i relapsed. although i knew this earlier i failed to follow it but i guess i'm back on my feet again aware of this.. thanks for reminding me..


crossglow - I know what you are saying about how difficult it is to quit and get over our fantasies and temptations during a Nofap streak. in times like this some of us do need to write down a journal or something like that to beat it and I am so glad myself for a place like NoFap.org for us to look out for some kind of support from other people. it is great. but what i find a little odd is when i see people going to the depths of it while trying to analyse why and how they relapsed.. in fact i find myself doing it too.. i just hope we all dont get caught up in this place for too long.. that is my fear. .. cuz the real world is out there.. you know? out there... i am aware i came out too strongly in that post.. but i did want to sound like that - maybe to keep myself from turning out to be hypocritical.. i guess i am getting there too.. cuz i am stuck as much as everybody else in this addiction and trying to fight it as hard as possible, just like everybody else..

keep on fighting folks. but keep it easy. and keep it cool.