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So what do you do when you don't get a lot of physical touch?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by zxcv, Aug 9, 2018.

  1. zxcv

    zxcv Fapstronaut

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    Touch is my biggest love language but the problem is that I never really get any. I'm not talking about sexual just normal casual touch. I mean I have 3 cats and parents that I can get hugs from but, I need to the touch of a woman too. I mean at church at every week you see people hugging each other casually, but for some reason I never really get any. It's probably been over a year and half since I got a real hug outside of family. There was this one time last year when I got a hug, but it was awkward and she didn't really enjoy that. Which is a problem because I like touch, and can't get enough of it, but I also can't really get touching in my life.


    https://blog.christianconnection.com/the-gentle-touch-why-physical-affection-matters/
     
  2. Well, go up and give a hug to those that you see hugging others. It's a no brainer really.
     
  3. Nightbynight

    Nightbynight Fapstronaut

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    Maybe touch your self? Oh wait, pobably not the best thing to say on nofap..

    Hmm second what you said though, I remember a Ted talk where touch was discussed as an actual human need like water or sleep. And a womens touch especialy can validate you, otherwise you find yourself feeling like your missing something substantial, which it is.

    Maybe try speed dating or something though? Just to get that dose of feminine energy.
     
  4. zxcv

    zxcv Fapstronaut

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    Anyway, I think I'm better at understanding people through touch than body language. I used to be able to get hugs and when I did I could tell when the girl was actually into the hug and she was just doing it be nice. Like said that one from last year that I don't really count because she wasn't really into it. Now that I think about the last time times I tried to get a hug I've gotten rejected that's probably I have been trying lately. But still I can tell when people are into physical touch and when they aren't, and some of my best memories are getting physical touch the other person was into it.
     
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  5. Jason_Tesla_19

    Jason_Tesla_19 Fapstronaut

    There is a huge difference between polite hugs and enthusiastic hugs! My primary love language is physical touch, and the difference is night and day, particularly if their primary love language is physical touch, too.
     
  6. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    The only place I can hug someone are Narcotics Anonymous meetings I am visiting. No hugs in my family. I had a girlfriend recently and I felt like I haven't hugged her enough. I know how you feel .
     
  7. nef

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    seeing whole world with relationships and i'm totally out of league is bit painful but thats how it goes
     
  8. Target365

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    Don't let it become your weakness brother. Appreciate this quality of yours that you are more sensitive to touch. Don't think too much about it. Focus on improving your self where you think you lack. Keep yourself busy.
     
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  9. izdwuut

    izdwuut Fapstronaut

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    I think that it leads me to crying quite a lot. Thankfully I drink like a gallon of water daily, so I constantly recharge my tear ducts.
     
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  10. HereAndThere

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    I think i watched it. They mentioned some Romanian orphans being scarred for life cause they didnt get physical contact while being institutionalized. It was disturbing af to hear that cause i am in the same boat as the rest of you guys.
     
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