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How do I stop thinking about porn during sex?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Henners123, Aug 16, 2018.

  1. Aug 16, 2018 #1
    Henners123

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    I've been addicted to internet porn for about 10 years (now 36). I've suffered from ED as a result of this...

    In the past whenever I have had sex and been conscious of the fact that I was struggling to perform, I would usually try and think about the porn I had watched (actresses, scenes, videos etc) to try and will myself along and keep going but usually to no avail.

    I'm currently in the process of trying to give up PMO. My question really is this, assuming I am successful in giving up PMO, in due course when having sex what should I try and think about? I don't want to be thinking about porn but do I think about the woman I am with, do I just not think and let things happen...the problem is my porn addiction began before I lost my virginity so I don't really know what is the done thing.

    Thanks in advance if anyone can assist
     
    Henners123, Aug 16, 2018
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  2. Aug 16, 2018 #2
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    Practice.

    Star meditating to learn how to keep your mind clear and focused. Do things that require complete focus: intense puzzles, walking a slack line, wrestling gators.

    Focus on your partner: their smell, taste, breathing—be in the moment.
     
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  3. Aug 16, 2018 #3
    TheManDude

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    Haven't had sex with a person I cared without being doing PMO but concentrating on her and what she enjoys seems like a good bet, sounds like a healthy way of having sex.
     
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  4. Aug 17, 2018 #4
    Blossom

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    Who is this "woman".. Is she your girlfriend? Do you have any feelings for her?
    I never understood it, how can you think about porn while having sex with a person you love
     
    Blossom, Aug 17, 2018
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  5. Aug 17, 2018 #5
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    You need to stop watching porn, jerk off and edging - no fucking fantasies, thoughts, looking lustfully on girls etc. It is not for you, right? You need to decide what is more valuable for you - real pleasurable sex or artificial images in screen and drugging your mind.

    The second thing - you are not obligated to ejaculate every time. It is better to not reach climax than thinking about porn (or related stuff) to have it. Try to enjoy your play - sex is good and it is not about performance or challenges.

    Really? Do you have such things with other girls but not with your beloved one? Or maybe you lives in lie that "with love it will be different"?
     
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  6. Aug 19, 2018 #6
    Uncomfortably Numb

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    Blossom, I get your confusion but please be careful not to judge... we are all having our own personal battles against this poison
     
    Uncomfortably Numb, Aug 19, 2018
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