how to not masturbate when your so lonely

Loneliness is tough. I usually remind myself of the people who care for me, even as I am alone. It helps to get through the days lol.

 

Kinda difficult I know. But look at it this way perhaps:

Start with what’s positive and expand on that. Make the positive you have a larger time consuming activity. Then find other things that interest you and get involved in that.

K here’s a suggestion based on the little info you’ve written in hopes of helping.

You wrote that you do have a job. It’s only two days a week but it is a job. Anyway can you stay over a bit on your own time to help out and maybe interact more with coworkers. That can show enthusiasm and perhaps you’ll later get hired for more hours and and make more money.

I know the Western thinking on something like that is “are you F-ing crazy!” But you need to start getting out of the house more and make a drastic change somewhere.

How about exploring where you live? Take pictures of your beautiful country and share them online.

Are there any positive things you like to do out of the house? Go online and find groups that enjoy those activities and join them.

Just suggestion that immediately come to mind. I of course don’t know all the details of your life. Maybe you can share a bit more and others might have other suggestions.

 

It's a tough situation to say the least and I get that you feel that going back to PMO is a way to deal with lonelyness but think about it, why would you add more troubles to yourself by PMOing it's just a very brief fix and you'll just feel like shit afterwards.

Working two says a week and living in the country does not sound really good but what do you can do about it? Getting another job or moving to a city? Have you thought about any of that?

 

What kind of job do you do, Jack? What transferable skills do you have? What sort of shape is your CV in? It sounds to me like getting a full time meaningful job with decent colleagues would help you begin to change your situation. If you need a hand sorting out your CV and need any advice for types of jobs to apply for based on your experience send me a PM and I’d be happy to help.

 

27 years old here, I agreed and it's getting boring. Also, I'm living at home without getting caught, have friends, and working 5 days a week on the West Coast.

Loneliness is hard to get through and I always feel numb about going back to cam or dating site if there's any hot woman to hook up and trying to chat but I've never signed up a single adult website. The reason why I feel lonely at times because I feel like I want/need to have sex with a beautiful woman with a nice body at age of 24 to 40 just once and put to end to my porn addiction once and for all. Another reason is, touching a woman and squeezing a pair of breasts is why I want to have sex only just once. Of course, that's just me and I've been told by that situation of mine before but I still couldn't help. I'm perfectly fine without a girlfriend (thank god I never had one in my high school years), though.

 

I know that. Loneliness is not the best situation to fight PMO, but is a situation worth to fight PMO. I tried a lot of tricks / ways to handle loneliness without PMO and the trick I am trying now is my free will, my pure will not to do PMO.

It is not about how the life is supposed to be. It is about the way you go now. And that about your free will. I train my will in times without urges to be strong in urges. Be smart for it and use your heart to focus on your will. Your will. No discussion. That's my way now for two and a half week.

 

I am in your same situation, 25 year old, also virgin, day 24 of no PMO but I am not desperate, it has to get better, after 90 days of no PMO even social anxiety disappears and talking to girls, making a girlfriend or even going to an escort will be a much easier step to make.

 

Well lad how ya keepin, don't worry right now , look up and stay strong and you'll get through all of this shit. If there's a will , there's a fucking way

 

Don't worry Jack. We're here for you. Know that there is a community of addicts who are all in the same twisted boat. No offense. I am in the boat too. We are all sufferers for what PMO has done to us. But please. Relapsing isn't the way. It will be a temporary high, and the crash will be the worst. So try and fight the urges as much as you can. And come on here and interact with us. We won't bite

 

Stay strong bro, many of us here are in same situation.........