Struggeling with myself when is the best time to tell my wife about my addiction

Again, I know not what will happen to your marriage and your family when you decide to tell your wife, but I know it will help you recover regardless of those consequences. Telling your wife (or anyone close to you, for that matter) will bring you to a new stage in your recovery: one where you're no longer alone in facing your addiction. I'm not telling you that disclosure is the best option for you because I think it's the best thing for your marriage. I don't know what disclosure is going to do to your marriage. Rather, I'm urging you to do so because I think it's the best thing for your recovery.

 

I see what you're saying, and it's great that you recognize that your actions will impact not only you, but your family as well. Nevertheless, that's not really my point. My point is that disclosure will help you in your recovery, even if that means heavy consequences for you and your family. Please don't misunderstand me there: I'm not claiming that you ought to prioritize your recovery over your family or anything like that. I think it's up to you to figure out where your recovery lies on your priority list, and it's up to you to decide when you're ready to make the next steps towards healing.

 

Everyone has great input here. The main thing is to do what is right and ignore your fears. Fear to expose yourself is a big part of this problem. If you want to soften the blow you should get a bit of time of commitment to stopping in. Perhaps consult a physcologist, there are some cheaper options online. You could at least show her you have taken serious steps towards improving. Women will respect open honesty more than anything. If she gives you a good tongue-lashing, just take it. You earned it. It won’t get better until you face it. Nothing will improve I till you stop and open up. That is the best mindset loving forward. I know you can do it!!