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I've been considering seeing a prostitute, is it a good idea?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by TheManDude, Aug 13, 2018.

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  1. GA93JDeereboy

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    The temptation will get easier to get control over the longer you sustain from it. I can't say I didn't enjoy any of it because I did. But it's the act of me giving money for that which always rattled me. It depressed me so much. You can break it man.
     
  2. TheManDude

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    I gave in and saw a escort today and well I feel like shit, but I guess I wouldn't stop thinking about it until I did it. The experience wasn't anything out of the ordinary and honestly it felt like PMOing so i'm resetting my counter back to 0 in pull myself together there's no sense in beating me over it... the only thing I regret is throwing away a 18 days streak to the trash over some stupid impulse.
     
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  3. We're all in this together. Keep coming back to the site. Keep working on getting away from the things that are making you less of what you can potentially be. I for one am not and will never judge you. I'm hoping the best for you.
     
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  4. TheManDude

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    Thank you so much for your kind words, i'm going to put all the effort I can to go thru with this addiction.
     
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  5. GA93JDeereboy

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    You did make 18 days so. Make a goal. Write it down and stick to it. If you need any advise from me feel free to pm me. Remember to focus on what is more important in life.
    What was she like? Did she just come n go? If so you see it's not worth it man. Those ladies are going down to there lowest to make money. May need to just go out and find a girlfriend. Get out and start talking to them. Remember what YOU want! Not what they want.
     
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  6. TheManDude

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    Yes, I'm proud of those 18 days and I know I can go further... every time I do a restart it gets a bit easier to handle things.

    I don't think i'm ready for a relationship right know, I feel I have a ton of things I got to work on my character. 13 years of PMOing made me detach a lot from myself and some areas of my personality are lacking and need maturing.

    I won't ever do that again it's just not worth it.
     
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  7. Marcothebest_1995

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    Hello man, I feel you, and I have pals who use to go to prostitutes from time to time when they are single.

    I have never had a serious relationship, it's been 4 years since my last sexual encounter (it was with a significant other) and I'm on my 23. I suffer this situation a lot, but I never considered seriously to do that step.

    1 - in Italy there is no such thing as legal prostitution, you must go on the street. You end up giving money to criminals.

    2 - it would mean a surrender, for me, to the fact that I am not able to get a girl who loves me for what I am. I can get punched and beaten into pieces by this fact, but I will never surrender and I know that I will have, with hard work, the last word on this stuff.

    3 - In our case, it would reinforce the addictions. We need to work on our context and our life standard to improve.
     
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  8. GA93JDeereboy

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    It's not a bad idea to get yourself together then seek out someone to be with. Or she will come when the time is right.
    Be the bigger man. When you do beat this once and for all. It will all be your past and you won't be that guy anymore. You can help other people on here with sharing ways you beat it.
    Many people joke around about prostitutes and joke but I know it isn't a laughing matter for people who have a problem with it. People who sound like yourself don't need them. It isn't helping you out. It is hurting you financially and in other ways. It's time to get a grip of yourself and be strong!
     
  9. RitzyPETE123

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    I've been in a similar boat: when I was young I met this woman online who got real close to me and we started doing cam2cam time and again (which looking back on makes me feel horrified), and also I used certain apps to communicate with women (or at least they said they were), giving them money to talk to them and for pictures or cam2cams. I broke my bank doing this, please, don't be the same, I know it feels good in the moments, but it didn't when they threatened to tell all my family and friends if I didn't give them a lot. All this is a big fat lie you tell yourself, please fight it, don't end up like me who can't sleep nightly
     
  10. GoPhonix

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    I see me having the same problem soon. From my experience the more you need this the worse the actual experience ( the girls know the game and you are in monkey mode) and under the commitment the post depression must be horrible … just don’t … and if you get hooked by it it is other cost factor then P other level all together and with the rate of O one is craving you got bank robed in no time … been there but still see me struggling with the urge. And if all this selfish reasons are not enough put your money into this business is worse then buy plastic bags and pullout the ocean …
     
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  11. Confirmed.
    I've gone crazy with it. In much the same way as I did with porn. Even a near miss encounter with the police hasn't completely stopped it.

    At first, I thought it was a success: "My dick works! This is great!". But I've overdone it to the place where that isn't always true - unnatural desire and stimulus is driving me beyond my physical and mental abilities. (I'm 63 and not in the best health, so that may have something to do with it, too.)

    I don't even know how to think about a relationship with a woman right now. It's like I can't even contemplate it while I'm still wrapped up in this.

    How the hell do I talk about this when the serious questions start?

    Quite true.
     
  12. TheManDude

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    I want to avoid all troubles related to prostitutes, honestly I already have enough things to deal with porn and letting my sex addiction go wild with another thing it's just a terrible idea.

    I also question myself how to talk about this with a SO eventually but I'll deal with it when I get to that.
     
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  13. Meursault

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    How did you go about fining one? The only way I've seen them is in strip clubs.
     
  14. MovingOnFromThePast

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    Love is what makes men happy. I hope you don't go that route to find an escort. It's a fantasy, nothing more. Live now, live in reality.
     
  15. Address007

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    Well at least you know now.

    I'm young and saw a high-class escort. Loved every minute of it tbh lol. So it can be really addicting, and if you don't got the money, stay away from it. But from your experience, it didn't seem all that great anyway.

    Good luck on your journey!
     
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  16. Khufu

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    with my experience with real girlfriends and also escorts is, once you have sex with someone make sure they well be there everyday as in relationship, through my expereince sex increases your sexual energy dramatically,i use to have E.D it seem to go away now i can last around and hour, the same amount of time it takes a female to "O" sex is the exchange of energies both of you need to have orgasm thou,which means it takes time to learn about her learn what gets her to "O" when i have sex with someone my sexual energy increases more then i can handle, i well need her to be there for me,as i for her, my past is nothing but one night stands an escorts an it lead me to relapse an binge on PMO insanely,
     
  17. DomDom504

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    Great news exercise helps a bunch and just keep fighting you got this
     

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