How to cope with relapse urge to a specific actress?

Yes the first month happened a lot to me because I browse some NSFW forums and a lot fo actresses were posted there... my solution was to go out of my house and go to my parents to talk to them or a stroll around the neighborhood and the urges should go away for a while.

 

That's a pretty good question and sadly one I can't answer in full... this is something that everyone goes thru during a rebooth and has a different solution for every person.

Personally I began doing this to see if I can get rid of those urges at night https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1fywub/urge_surfing/
and it's been working so far but is quite difficult at first, maybe that can help you.

 

I know it sounds crazy, and it could be a really bad idea depending on your situation, but you can try telling your girlfriend about all this and see what she thinks. Basically try to find an accountability partner in your girlfriend and whenever you get those urges, think of your gf and how she would feel if you masturbated to another girl than her. (not that you would masturbate to her in the first place but your sexual desires should be reserved only for your love.)
The reason I recommend this is because I tried this with my last gf and it actually worked really well, I found it much easier to abstain because of her and she was really supportive.

 

You're welcome man, i'm glad I could help!

 

It could help to put things in to perspective.

The actress you're thinking about is probably really beautiful in your mind. Ask yourself if you would still want to masturbate to her if she were let's say 90 years old, or if she had some kind of condition that made her less attractive.

The human body may be attractive temporarily but you'll need to ask yourself if it's really worth it. Because one day that actress will be old and you won't find her attractive anymore. At the end of the day she's just another prostitute making money off other people's misery.

Every time you fap you're giving away a little part of yourself. At least let it be worth it. You don't need to waste away your dna in front of a computer. To be a real man means to have sex with real women, and to choose who's worthy of your dna. Let this type of thing be your mantra and porn or whatever virtual prostitute will have no power over you.

Best of luck.

 

look into her eyes i bet that is more beautiful than her body i always do this when i see an attractive girl i just look her eyes ,face and hair and just keep admiring her beauty BUT DONT'T JUDGE HER PERSONALITY WITH HER FACE !!

 

Bro do read this,
It got me through some strong urges.
http://husbandhelphaven.com/porn-addiction-withdrawal-walkthrough/
All the very best!!
Do share this with people who are in need.

 

The point is that human bonding is much different from getting sexually excited in front of a computer screen. To understand this means to set new goals that involve real human beings. Getting insight in this is crucial if you want to overcome porn addiction.

To weaken the power porn has over you means to ask yourself: "Where does it lead me?"; "Will it ever fully satisfy me?" You know the answers to these questions. Pleasure is short lived, real happiness is different. Porn is rotten to the core. It distances the viewer from true happiness, every single time.
The one neurotransmitter that is said to play a very big role in porn addiction is dopamine. This biochemical compound is capable of exciting neurons so much that they are severely weakened or even die. All the while your body starts adapting to excitatory biochemical compounds, a flood of them, and other crucial neurotransmitters to make you feel happy like serotonin are down-regulated in the process. Since porn is capable of shutting down your prefrontal lobes it's capable of changing the way you think, and even capable of shrinking your brain. That is how toxic porn really is. In the end it will always destroy positive traits like happiness and self-confidence.

Even if you'd spend every minute of every day watching porn, you'd never be able of going through all of it in one single lifetime. It can never completely satisfy you, no matter the pretty faces or body parts. What you're seeing on that screen is just that, pixels. The actress you're talking about in these video's is probably having sex with another man. Subconsciously that is very harmful, since it will make you feel abundant and inferior. You're basically left with nothing every time you've fallen into that deceit. Like a drug it will make you want to repeat the action, hoping the effects and feeling of bliss will last longer next time. In the end there's only one outcome: a most frustrated, depressed wreck looking back at you in the mirror. You have the power to say no. No one has ever forced you to watch porn. As easy as it is to log on to your internet, that's how easy it is to shut it down when you need to. Mastering those urges means to have insight in porn's true intentions. The single goal of the entire industry is to leave you with nothing. Your wellbeing means nothing to these actresses. All they really want is your money or your clicks. Understand this concept, fact actually, and you'll see your passion turn into aversion. No urge will have any real power over you once you see the bigger picture. Deep down you know all of this to be true, if not you wouldn't seek out advise. It's up to you to implement these understandings once the urge tries to lure you back to whatever particular website. Even if it doesn't feel or seem like it, you always have that choice, an opportunity to say no. It will have to be your personal convictions and aversion towards porn that will turn that weak little "no" into a full sounding NO. And that is when you will find peace and freedom.