I'm having a problem with ogling bra less women lately.

I think you should change the title of the post to something less suggestive. You did put trigger warning in the thread but the title isn’t helping

 

I know where you're coming from. I go to a very conservative university and the girls there still go braless and see how short of skirts they can wear! They are so naive and don't know how to cross their legs when wearing short skirts (already seen up three this week), so I empathize with you in wanting to say, "I'm trying not to jerk off, do you mind?" To boot, I've seen the way girls dress elsewhere-I wouldn't survive.

 

I asked Robert Wise about oogling, and he gave me a great tip. the 3 second rule.
1st second...wow she (or he) is beautiful, appreciate thier beauty
2nd second...look away
3rd second...say a prayer or think that she is someones daughter/son and a person not an object.

 

Good guidance above, I find.
I think three seconds is max,
min is best.

I've been also looking beyond the temptation
looking for the thing I was really meant to focus on,
asking what else is important in the same field of vision...

It may simply be avoiding a problem
that I did not initially see
such as a red light, etc.

 

hey man you are not alone with this challange, i was lately transferred to a different branch of our company and there are alot of attractive girls in this new site. Never really hard issues with starring at girls and desiring them like this before until i got to this new site. Most of the time it was the other way round where girls normaly give me attention to the point of freaking me out. I read your post just when i was suffering the consequences of oogling. i realise after oogling at the girls i feel ashamed and loose focus and control also my mind becomes clumsy and sloppy. I decide to medidate on the scenario of what happens when i see an attractive girl so that i can choose a constructive way of handling the situation. i realised as soon as i see an attractive girl my mind goes blank and am hijacked by some force which produces constant energy (of lust) within my body. so i thought the best thing to do was to fight the force and eliminate it but the more i try the weaker i become, i thought ok then if this force is too strong and it is inside of my being how can i make use of it. It came to me to give a different interpretation to the impulsive force in the presence of attractive girls.
Steps i used to over come oogling:
1. change my state of mind on how i view attractive girls, i try to look at the whole picture, even though am feeling attration towards her, she is also feeling the same towards me, moreover she goes to toilet like any other human being, she sleep like anyone else, have challenges in life like anyone else and a whole alot of realistic human challanges, so what is the point of me considering her as a piece of meet.

2. i chose a way to benefit from the impulsive force that comes out when i see attractive girls, i accept fully and act on that force with a different intention. i use the power of that force to form a mental image in mind of a shinning mirror and affirming in my mind " i am grateful for having mental clarity", as soon i see the attractive girl but looking at her head or if she decides to make eye contact by looking at her directly in the eyes without checking her out, unless may be she invites me to check her out as part of a courtship process, as i contine to hold this mental mirror in my mind i visualize the mirror becoming brighter and brighter as she pass by and as soon as she passes i realise the desire to look at her just vanish and my mind becomes clear .
This was what i have discovered for now on my NO PMO journey and hope it is going to get better and better.
Happy Note: after successfully doing this at work today, i realised some change of energy in my self which is quite nice ( i feel clean), these girls are trying to hold eye contact with me and if it happens they smile. i realised one girl was happy and a bit animated when i said hi to her.

 

Good luck.
Why are we here again?

Strikes me as so unhelpful to recovery.

 

View it as a challenge, and refrain from paying attention.