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Relapsed after causal sex

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Athelas, Dec 29, 2014.

  1. Dec 29, 2014 #1
    Athelas

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    I feel little bit disappointed that I had to learn this easy lesson the hard way - I had a nice sex with a girlfriend, strong spontaneous boner and everything. It was nice, nice cuddling, however after getting home my brain was craving for more... some things were not going smoothly with work and eventually after little bit of struggle I flipped and went downhill.

    That makes me seriously consider the hard mode, but I am so afraid... Why is it SO HARD?
     
    Athelas, Dec 29, 2014
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  2. Dec 29, 2014 #2
    reedman

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    Yeah man, it's happened to me too. I've learned you have to REALLY be on the lookout in the day or two after you have sex, because it just turbocharges you. I can't go hard mode cos I'm married, but if you think that's the way it has to be for you than try it. Otherwise, keep on screwing but really watch yourself and EXAMINE yourself afterward: what is it that's causing the craving? What do you find is driving the hunger? It takes massive effort to say hold it, why am I feeling this way, but it can be quite interesting if you do, sort of like pulling up the hood and examining the mental engine for clues. Good luck!
     
    reedman, Dec 29, 2014
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  3. Dec 29, 2014 #3
    A.W

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    I have the same problem. Sometimes I think the true hard mode is having sex while doing NoFap. I don't really have any answers for you, but I mainly use will power and a few other strategies. I know when a PMO relapse is coming on, it's almost like an unstoppable force that is out of my control, but it is actually not! I just need to wake up and snap myself out of it. Usually I immediately stop using any electronic devices and get the hell out of the house (if possible).
     
    A.W, Dec 29, 2014
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  4. Dec 29, 2014 #4
    Athelas

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    Thank you guys for sharing. I see I am not alone, sometimes that realization helps a lot. From what I have seen here, guys with commitments complain that it makes more difficult, guys without a partner are desperate to have one. I think it is just plain hard for everyone and a good supportive friend or accountability partner is worth more than all the sex partners around.

    I will try not to screw at every opportunity no matter how much the girl wants it. I am going to teach my body that everything now is dosed in moderation - caring love being the only exception :)

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    NEXT TIME I'LL TRY HARDER
     
    Athelas, Dec 29, 2014
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