Advice on apologizing to (ex?) girlfriend

Nothing! It was stupid to give her chocolates and make her a note. What are you trying to achieve with this nonsense? You are going to fail and if you somehow succeed you will end up breaking up eventually! And why on earth would you date someone you work with in the first place? You need to find a new job ASAP.

 

I concur with the note as to me, it's always better to tell someone your feelings in person, but why was the chocolates stupid?

He also said he barely works with her. It's not like it's The Office or anything.

 

Unfortunately it doesnt seem to me that you can do anything else but move on. I'm sorry you're hurting :/ I've been there. It takes time, but it will get better, and if she doesnt want to be with you, then you deserve to be with somebody who does. So I think, now that you've said your piece, the best thing to do is to respect her decision and try to move on. Break ups are really really hard, but time and distractions will help.

 

Don't waste your time or breath. It's over. Talk is cheap, and she's lost trust in you. Sorry.

 

Get over it move on. Remember your mistake so you don't fuck up the same way next time. Don't make it any harder on her by continuing to push the issue.

 

The end of my 11 month relationship, almost 2 years ago, was similar. She complained that she didn't feel me attracted to her anymore. We didn't talk enough every day. And that was the end...
Step 1: Give yourself some time to respawn.
Step 2: Continue your life.
Step 3: Find a new gf.

Well, I'm stuck in step 2. I miss her more and more...

 

Girls are like that, if a person did a mistake or they doubt him for any reason, things are gonna change and never get back to normal no matter what you do so IMHO, if you want to release the rest of hope you have. Speak with her clearly and tell her that you want things to be as before and you won't disappoint her again. If she refused, you have done your part. So move on!
The second option is to just forget about it and move on.

 

Well it's made things harder for you at work. It's always a bad idea to date someone you work with.

 

Respect her choice, this is true, she is her own person, you may have to "walk away", and that is the approach of what you should expect.

But respect your choice as well, try! We complain so much that we don't do this or that or follow what we feel or what we want. If you understand that a relationship with her is something you want, try at it! Fail at it! Do something to respect your own needs and wants as a person! Its not wrong, if you spend the time and energy and money or whatever else on another human being because you truly want to express your self and you don't "get" them or "obtain" them at the end, who cares? The goal is not just to have her here, but have some respect for your own needs and feelings if it is something true from yourself. The goal doesn't even have to just be in a relationship with her, but maybe gain some experience going through something difficult, if you want it. If you fail, be grateful you have the extra time, energy, emotion, and money to put into someone else at the time, you will not always have a whole life to give and make mistakes with people. Push yourself, but only from your own needs and principles, it is worth it.

Listen to yourself and your own choices, you've put effort into it already, so try at giving without expectation here! If it doesn't work out, mourn and be sad, that's okay, that is learning and change.

 

Youre her friend now, period. Can you handle being just that? I suggest you give yourself some time apart. I know that you work together but you can create distance in your head.