Well hello there, fellow Fapstronauts!

Hello everyone,

My name’s Tom. I’m not exactly new to NoFap, but this is the first time I’m really going to participate on this site and engage with other users.

I’m a pretty easy-going 28-year-old guy from the UK, I’ve been actively trying to give my porn habit the boot since about November 2016 with varying success. I'm not here to "lick my wounds" and talk about all the negatives in this struggle. I've always preferred to see the glass as being half-full, and I'm here to grow and get recovery.

I’m engaged to a wonderful girl who has my back in my recovery (even though she doesn’t understand everything that goes with compulsive porn use), and at the moment she’s the only person in my everyday life that has any idea about this.

My intentions on NoFap are to really get to know some follow Fapstronauts and share information, in a totally safe/confidential, honest and frank manner. I’m looking for human contact, because I’ve found that one of the biggest obstacles to recovery are anonymity and isolation. Unfortunately, my current circumstances don’t allow me to share this with my “real life” friends.

I’m here to learn, as much as I am to share. If I can make a friend or two along the way, all the better. I’ve learned a lot over 2 years of struggle, and I’d love to hear off some guys who are further along than me. Furthermore, I’m very happy to share with other guys who are just getting started.

Have a great day, and I look forward to chatting to some of you guys soon!

Tom

 

Hi Joe,
Thanks for your message, your profile pic gave me a laugh!
You're spot on about getting it kicked now, I'm doing my best to act now and not take this into my 30s.
Older guys have so much to contribute to this site with all the extra life experience, even when they're not fully recovered themselves we can learn so much.
I've had a great life so far despite this habit, but I don't see any place for it in my future.
Congrats on getting 57 days free by the way, buddy! That's still a dream for me!
It's not always easy, especially when it comes to resetting the counter. But I've always managed to get back on the horse. You're only defeated when you give up.
Take it easy,
Tom

 

Hi FlameGuy,
How's it going?
It's always great to know that we're not here on our own. None of us are alone in this, and I believe that reaching out to others is a powerful first step to recovery.
I've been actively trying to kick this habit for 2 years now, and I feel as though I'm somewhat going around in circles. I don't feel like I'm making a huge amount of progress, as my longest streak in all this time has been about 3 weeks.
I realised how bad this was getting when I started using at work (in work hours using a work computer), when I started getting hooked on chatrooms and became unfaithful to a wonderful partner, and when I noticed how my tastes in pornography were becoming increasingly weirder!
This is not the person who I want to be. I really feel like "the tail is wagging the dog!" There's a huge discrepancy between the person who I present myself to be and the person who I really am on the inside. It's beginning to drive a wedge between myself and others, and stunting my ability to form deep connections with others.

I'm hoping that by fostering strong connections with fellow Fapstronauts I can get great advice on implementing a plan, really start making progress in recovery, stay sober and become the person who I want to be.

I'm interested in joining/creating a recovery group via Skype/WhatsApp if you're interested.

Tom