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0 PMO = 0 anxiety

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by fellowBrother, Sep 23, 2018.

  1. fellowBrother

    fellowBrother Fapstronaut

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    Went 40ish days and relapsed yesterday right before a huge social event weekend. I knew it was going to be bad, but not this bad. The social anxiety I had was horrible. I was unable to talk or even communicate with a pretty girl, when normally I am a stud who can talk to anyone. I know for a fact that fapping causes some type of chemical imbalance that makes me totally incapable of interacting normally. My adrenaline glands are on high speed, and even a look from a pretty girl puts my body on high alert; just like the feeling I get before riding a roller coaster. Guys, if you are socially anxious and reading this, abstaining from PMO will make you realize why you have been so anxious and why your social ability is trash. On day 40, I went to a career fair and met heaps of beautiful women with no problem. As soon as i relapse I am a sad beta with no hope to ever reproduce.
     
  2. MasterRoshi

    MasterRoshi Fapstronaut

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    I’m still normalizing, but I can totally relate to this. I’ve been able to do greater things over the past 6 months that I’ve never done before due to zero PMO.
     
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  3. litew8

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    Yes i can also relate to this, my question is though after a while of abstaining, if you get lucky and meet a beautiful girl and make love, will the chemical imbalance be similar or the same? i found even with my ex of 7 years after i made love with her i became very defensive and the barrier was there afterwards. Some of us guys just have this issue with dopamine release i think, not everyones brains are wired the same and i certainly have a brain thats geared for 'fun' and hedonistic behavior.

    I am without doubt feeling the full benefits that you describe though, i am chatty with strangers and gaze at the most beautiful girl in the eyes with a wry smile, i feel stronger inside and confident, a calmness i have rarely felt before other than being high on drugs.

    My feeling is though that when that moment comes again, regardless it being for real and with a girl them negative feelings will come back to a degree, something i am expecting to be fair but i am also happy to now know how get back to this point.

    I very much doubt i will ever reach what some regard as normal, but i am very happy to have found an inner power that can boost yourself confidence, something healthy and not involving getting high or drinking.
     
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  4. Westsidejimmy

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    I can totally relate. I'm still rebooting after 130 days. Recently at an establishment I hang out at with buddies to watch sports one of the employees who has gotten friendly with us told me she used to be a stripper. I point blank said it's going to be really hard for me to be around you now since I am a recovering sex addict. Amazingly she said that's exactly why she quit stripping. Because she felt dirty taking money from men who couldn't control their urges. I was amazed to hear this from a former dancer. I told her during my hardcore addiction days there is no way i could have carried on a conversation with someone as a attractive as her without going into creep mode. She totally understood. It reads on your face when you are an addict. Girls can see the shame a mile away. Also prior to this reboot I think she would have avoided me like the plague. I'm married and don't have an interest in anything other than conversation with a gal like that, but pre reboot I doubt we would have sharded two words.
     
  5. zadvanceppa

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    I relate to this above thread. I lived with your described feelings and fears for decades. I never put pmo together as to the cause but I wonder how I could not either look at pmo as a problem or experiment with abstinence from it during all those years. It took this site and all of the people here for me to finally figure it out.
    I have grown fearful of the O ! Whether with my wife or any other less suitable way. However, I expect the O's to be less frequent for a long time and I think I will take into account, important upcoming events and dealings. I fear that I am a victim of immediate over anxiousness or whatever chemical release in my brain does and makes me less capable.
     
  6. Samsara warnes

    Samsara warnes New Fapstronaut

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    Perdón soy nuevo. Que significa PMO?
     
  7. Mattew

    Mattew Fapstronaut

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    I'm on day 120+, but social anxiety is still there...
     
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