Let porn go

You said "collecting porn" , have you deleted it?

 

What are you waiting for, though?

The truth is that if you delete it -- and then empty your trash -- get rid of *all* of it, forever -- you will feel a huge weight lifted from you. And it will be that much easier to travel this road.

They say that when Cortez landed in Mexico, he burned his ships on the beach. It was a way to tell his soldiers: There's no turning back. We either defeat our enemy, or we die trying.

No pressure, but take it from a guy who's been fighting this a decade and a half: deleting all the crap you've collected is a great first step.

 

Welcome man!!, im afraid you will have to take a more aggresive stance for this, PMO addiction is very serious and needs to be treated as such your collection of abused prostitutes on film needs to die, then you abstain from finding some more, and after that the fight starts, you can do it.

 

You're either in this or you're not man, and until you've deleted every little bit of porn, you're not completely 'in'. It sounds like you're not fully committed to this. Trust me, you'll probably feel relief when (if) you decide to delete your stash. You'll feel like you've got a clean slate.
My advice: Delete your stash, and let's do this properly

 

I agree with much of what you guys said in response to Bambinn's post. I have been there myself, and have amassed a huge collection of photos and videos, which, after a relapse or series of relapses, I've totally obliterated and cleansed from my system. The only problem I found with this, especially when still having bouts of relapsing, regardless of my best efforts, was that upon a relapse I would then not go back to my 'stash' but again waste hours upon hours looking up and saving new content via Internet searches. It made me sick that after a PMO binge I would look at the time and realized that sometimes I had wasted upwards of 8 to 10 hours in front of the computer, not doing the work I needed to do, but saving images, and all that led to some serious self-loathing and disgust at my own weakness and inability to not give in to my urges. And mind you, these urges all started with a simple arrogant "I'm strong enough to contain myself, but let me just follow this link of this sexy girl, or it's not going to kill me just to do a quick search for..." Famous last thoughts.

All this to say, perhaps, if Bambinn is just starting out, and he's able to contain himself from looking at the images, for the time being, until he's built up enough strength to go that next step, it's okay to keep the images stored out of sight, until such time that he can delete them. Just a thought. I may be wrong, but I'm just speaking from personal experience. Not looking is one thing, but I think not looking, combined with deleting everything, might add to the urge to find new replacements. Maybe a step by step approach.

As I said, it's just a thought, and I don't claim to be an expert, as I'm still in the early stages of this myself again, after numerous attempts. As a matter of fact, I haven't even gotten to the point where the withdrawals are starting to kick in yet, the time when it becomes hardest for me.

Best luck to all of us.

 

I don't know if that's the key point. It may be symbolic thing to delete this stuff, but overall, deleting it is just planing. If I throw away a box of cigarettes (or regaining/buying a new one) it doesn't mean I will quit forever because of it. I can't avoid seeing boxes forever. Also he can't avoid seing girls forever. It could be online ads, or girls walking down the street, etc. He can delete everything, he can block everything, but there always IS a way out of this and sliping back. It's not like you're in a prison. However, another part is aknowledging your urges, seing how you're already going for it and then realizing it's just the pattern caused by neuron combination. You can't suppress the thought of doing it, as it will come back even stronger. Be with it for a while. Not like turning this urge into fantasizing, but just observe/aknowledge this urge and it will settle down in a quick time. Then move on whatever you were planning to.

Another aspect IMO is to be more mindfull of what you're actualy doing. Ask yourself why you are at the computer, anyway. To read news? To contact someone? To watch a movie? I don't know, I think internet and social media got us really compulsive. We don't even know what we are after. It's like we're just trying to find something and not really sure, what. So be mindfull ... ask yourself: "am I using a computer for an addiction or do I have something important to do like school, work, meet a friend, or maybe to find relaxing music, comedy, whatever" ...

Good luck from me, too.

 

I have very close ties to people in recovery programs AA , NA , HA. People in those programs would NEVER keep alcohol, narcotics or heroin in their house, or even where they can't easily access it. Sure it will always be able to be accessed, thats just life , but the harder it takes to acquire it and the more hoops you have to go through those are just more "checks" in place. Just my thought. If I have to go looking for P that just gives me that much more time to think about what I'm doing and stop my actions.

It's my thought. I would personally clear my stash. Its all about a mindset. Cold Turkey.

 

It's definitly not wrong to delete any trash. If one feels it makes it easier, then it must be done.

However, like you said - Cold Turkey is the way ...