Should I marry a porn addict in denial?

No, No, No. Save yourself a lot of future pain. My husband watched incest porn and fantasized about my daughter after watching step daughter/father porn. Please run... I'm in so much pain over this. My daughter adored him and she is broken hearted as well... even though he is working his recovery the best I could ask if he is being honest, I don't know that we will make it.

 

I think the key here is that he doesnt recognize he has a problem. In that case, I wouldnt definitely say not to marry him unless and until he does recognize that. Heck, give him an ultimatum if you have to. Tell him you will not marry him if he doesnt accept that problem and get help, and then WAIT until he actually does that and follows through with it.

I married someone I knew had a porn addiction, and even with him being extremely remorseful and downright hating himself for the things he did and watched and trying his best to change, it was still an extremely difficult decision. I dont regret marrying him at all, but if he was doing all of those things and didn't see anything wrong with it? Hell no. You deserve better than that, and if he wont give you that, go find someone who will. Best wishes to you!

 

I know this isnt easy and my heart hurts for you to have to make this decision, but please dont set yourself up for a lifetime of pain. Marriage isnt easy, but it shouldnt start out with so many serious issues. It should be a little bit easy in the beginning.

 

We are here for you and I’m sending you lots and lots of love beautiful stranger. You are not alone. So many women out there experiencing this. Take me....I’m in a hole that I can’t get out of. I’m in love and married to the man of my dreams. This man of my dreams shows 0 interest in me sexually. It’s so depressing and we recently got married. My heart and entire being is heavy. I feel unwanted and desperate.

 

This is true.

Also, you never know what will happen in the future. Maybe you dumping him will be the push he needs to wake up and realize what an idiot he is. Maybe he will get his act together, come back in a year, and tell you how hard hes been working to change so you can have a future together.

 

This is true. He will reject you over and over, and tell you it's your own fault that he doesn't want you. It's like getting broken up with every day.

 

Please, please, please do not marry this man. You are putting yourself and future children AT RISK.

 

As a man who has been in his shoes you need to cut this one loose. He can't see beyond his selfish desires to know the pain and anguish that he causes and will cause to those who love him. Until his heart is ready and open to change, he won't. Don't think you can fix him or help him see the way because the guy is lost in his own fog and no outside force will clear that from him. Go find someone who is humble enough to know they are broken and strong enough to find ways to fix themselves.