How far back does a relapse put you?

I saw this article from 'your brain on porn'

"One of the most often asked questions is: "I've just relapsed, does this mean I am starting over at Day 1?" The simple answer is, "no." The days you spent not using porn have altered your brain in positive ways. Every time you say "no" to your porn habit, it strengthens your executive-control brain circuits and weakens your addiction circuits. Is an obese dieter back to day 1 because he pigged out on the weekend? No. Neither are you. Simply learn from the relapse, expect a strong chaser effect for a few days, take steps to prevent a similar one in the future, and start again."

Best of luck !

 

I guess it different for everyone. I dont consider edging or looking at a few pics a relapse. A relapse is opening a porn site and M to the videos. Thats when you have gone too far.

 

That's almost 2 months clean! All that was not for nothing. Keep up the good work! You've made it this far, you know you can do it again, and then some. Stay strong!

 

It depends on the nature of the relapse. Like a previous poster said, you aren't going to ruin 2 months of hard work in a single fap session or even a couple.

The relapses I have where I'm edging for several hours tend to be very destructive. But if it's simply "get in, get out" - where I'll look at something for a couple of minutes - the effects aren't as bad.

You have to look at it from this perspective. If you're addicted to porn and accepting the reality of the situation, you're already many times better than you used to be. You went two months without PMO AND you're having interactions with women. That puts you ahead of 99 percent of this forum, myself included. Be strong, faperer! You are the greatest masturbating tennis player of all time.

 

This reminds me of a good short video I saw about this subject : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aSFKKpwcGc0

 

In my opinion the answer would be no and Look at it this way.
You weigh 290 pounds and you want to lose 90 pounds because you feel that you have a problem. The method you are using to work out assures you that you lose 1 pound a day. During this period you cannot eat any junk food but it's hard so you are not going to eat junk food for the next 90 days. You have not eaten any junk food within the past 56 days so now you weigh 234. Unfortunately, in a drunken stupor you ate some junk food maybe a bag of chips is what you did whereas edging to porn for 5 hours would be two bags of chips, 10 cookies and an enormous chocolate cake. What you did however did set you back in your diet. That bag of chips made you gain 4 pounds per say. Now you weigh 238.
So basically those 56 days did not go to waste. You were doing great and you can do it again!

 

I cant put a number on how far it sets me back but it's definitely not a hard restart/reset. Id say it screws me over for about 20-30 days. My PIED is on the high end of moderate though.

 

I think relapses are much worse if it seems that they are out of your control and in a sense if, "you have lost your battle on nofap". If you set a reasonable target and say on this day I will relapse - the effect of the relapse is much reduced.

 

I truly believe it will have minimal/no effect IF you jump right back on and don't do it again. This includes staying away from anything that mimics relapse behavior as well as attempting to spend time around real women. I went a little over 9 months before my first relapse and then relapsed again 2 weeks later. That is 2 relapses in 310 days. I truly felt that they did not affect me but that I was on the verge of setting myself back if I allowed myself to slide back into that behavior. Don't beat yourself up and it's not about a day count in that way, you have to look at the big picture and see that if you make it say six months and that was your only relapse then it won't have an affect on your reboot. On the other hand if you relapse tomorrow and then a week later and then 3 days later and fall back into that cycle, yes you will undo your progress. The longer you go the quicker you will recover after a relapse. I felt that after 1 day I was back where I was before. Maybe not but that's how it felt. Just continue on and learn from it the best you can. Good luck.

 

Im on 25 days and I consciously wanna masturbate and stuff but I feel like ive made some progress in my social life and for me fapping is something I feel I really can choose to do or not but I wanna test wether or not I have but I think ill try to make it to 90 days instead of trying to find a way for me to "justify" relapses

 

One time, I went five months without porn and masturbation then gave in to temptation like a chump. Honestly, it was the best five months of my life, because I met my soul mate, and we fell in love. Our relationship, coupled with a feeling of reassuring pride stemming from my temporary success in abstaining from pornographic material, generated an empowering confidence within me which immediately fled when I relapsed. To this day, I still remember it as the most exciting, creative, and memorable portion of my life.

 

I Was on 120 days of nofap but that I fapper 4 times in total in 2 days becouse of watching porn so I am on Day 1 again or still in better position.
I m not feeling good.
Plsss tell me anyone...

 

go for another 120 days bro! u did it once u can do i again, learn from the relapse but don't give up, get back up and go for another streak.

 

That sounds similar to when I met my wife. I had given up P long before I met my wife, and I even went six months without having sex with anyone I had been dating. I was still using M at the time, but when I met my wife it was overwhelming. I still think back and wonder how I feel into that trap again after God had given me such and amazing bride.

I know part of it was my pride.

 

pmo addiction has been the toughest thing to let go, I been trying for 24 years now, but I don't give up that easy.