Fiancé watching breastfeeding videos

Nope. I am starting to detox already from habit and jedi urges like the evil side of sith and palpatine. I am waking up tomorrow at five am because for me it is really easy to wake up early since I have done it dozens of time before. I am going to work out, do stretching, read, journal, and go for a walk in the morning.

 

I took a long break from youtube the last few months. And when I returned to find some old music like, I noticed a strange pattern with youtube itself.

You see, I didn't log in with my account, and it just showed me these general 'trends'. Anyways, a lot of them had a subtle sexual undertone to them. This included quite a few breastfeeding videos.

I guess the point I'm making, is constant exposure to sexual content online can drive one to seek out different things. This is purely because the brain gets used to 'the norm' and wants something new to get any interest.

If your fiancé also watches porn, then I'm sure taking a break away from that will help him. It's not easy, and he has to want it more than anyone else.

Many of us that have gone through a few weeks or months away from porn or any sexual stimuli, will say that the stranger fetishes that originate online start to fade away.

Best case scenario: he was really bored, came across one video of it on youtube, decided to watch 10 in a row because he had nothing better to do...

 

I can relate to this, all these sorts of 'instructional' and 'educational'videos on YouTube could be just as dopamine increasing as P of whatever shape or form. I'm trying extremely hard not to use YouTube anymore. It certainly IS possible.

 

On the one hand, these videos are probably not age restricted on youtube, and basically he is trying to see what he can get away with (as far as nudity goes). This is not necessarily pedophilia you're witnessing. Then again, is he doing research on how to be a great father? Nope!

On the other hand, this is a guy who has asked you to marry him. If he has really decided to put the big boy pants on, he should have already put this behind him before getting engaged, not postponed it until after marriage. If you're thinking he has you, what does he need this for?... hmmmm...... you might be on to something there...

 

There certainly are a lot of questionable vids on there now. It seems a lot of women are doing borderline SFW stuff, while having zero educational or entertainment value. Showing off for views I guess.

I still log in to youtube occasionally to get my modded car fix... But browsing without any direction is a trap on there lol.

 

please hold off on any marriage commitment until you know this man better--a lot better. It might be nothing, it might be something, the problem is you don't know because you have questions about him. Do not ignore this doubt.

 

Ummmm.... No. A porn addict who is having to refrain from using, who is watching this...
This is a PSub. Without a doubt. And a disgusting one at that. Read the comment sections... A whole lot of vile men commenting on the breasts, wishing they were the baby. Saying how "hot it is" and how hard they are.
Don't take this so lightly. This is why feeding in public without covering is a gray area. Sure it's natural and healthy. But porn and all the desensitized men have turned it into a sexual act. The women making these videos know this, and capitalize on it. There is one woman on YouTube who bragged about breastfeeding while having sex. She video's her 5 year old feeding and asks him if he likes it, does it taste good etc. in a sexual tone.
I would have a serious conversation about this if I were you. Otherwise it's going to be really awkward and embarrassing when he's oggling feeding in public and gets aroused.

 

So unbelievably disgusting...

 

I seem to recall a discussion years (decades) ago in a sex Ed book about women getting sexually arroused as they breast fed. Was thought to be normal.

I had one client at work 20 years ago just opened up to breast feed her baby uncovered with hubby and me present. Yes, it was sexy, but I was pissed at this lady, too, for her unasked libertinism.

It’s fascinating, I must say and a miracle.

Just adding variety and volume on the internet ruins it maybe with the brain’s addictive capacity.

 

Sec addiction and pro addiction knows no boundaries. Many of us find pleasure from the extreme and the excitement that taboo subjects bring.

I have definitely watched breastfeeding videos. I have watched incest roll play as well as many other fetishes, that many might find disturbing.

I would say that for me at least here’s a huge difference between PMO fantasy and real life. In my real life I never would actually want to masturbate to a women breast feeding her kid. It’s just a progression of my PMO addiction.

I am now 6 months sober and I feel my sexual desires are resetting, so there’s definitely hope.

I would urge it to seek out a CSAT and discuss it with them. You will get much more insight into the lifestyle of a PMO addict and hopefully your husband can seek help as well. It’s great that you are trying to be supportive, but I know how hard it can be on you, and I hope that you can get the support you need as much as him.

 

ugh, this is perverse! It is not necessary to have children with such a person, he will jerk off every time you breastfeed a child.

 

That's totally normal... Women need to feed kids.

 

Well, curiosity and the porn brain got the best of me. I resisted but what I can say about the videos is that most are just the woman. If it is just the woman it is a psub or outright p. With the child was not something I could watch personally.