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So... the humiliating part is not only that I have a masturbation addiction, but that watching heter

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by ultrafabber, Oct 2, 2018.

  1. Oct 2, 2018 #1
    ultrafabber

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    I mean... I can watch solo females pictures or even gifs/movies, I do get aroused but also bored at the same time... I've had partners, i know how a woman looks. At "best" i'd masturbate once and be over with it. Same goes for fantasizing about a woman too.

    But straight porn (watching others have sex?)... Yeah, that gets me much more aroused, i can egde for 1h+ and I can ejaculate up to 5 times/day to it. (not every day but still).

    And it's not just that it's different females (and the Coolidge effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect ). I can watch multiple solo females and I will not masturbate more than once... usually i'll get bored with it.

    How messed up and utterly humiliating is that? I get 100x more turned on by watching others have sex. I am literally a voyeur and a cuck.

    Any one else has this problem?
     
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  2. Oct 2, 2018 #2
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    This is really similar to the Coolidge effect. You are aroused only by harder and harder stuff. A lot of guys here have the same problem- first nudity, then sex, after that fetishes and you end up with some weird and sick stuff. Drop that shit right now and you will be a happier and better man in your future, continue watching this and you will waste a lot of time and destroy your mind. The choice is yours!
     
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  3. Oct 2, 2018 #3
    The Lone Ranger

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    I would listen to GaryMayor
     
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  4. Oct 2, 2018 #4
    ultrafabber

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    I am dropping everything, but it's not about Coolidge effect. Coolidge effect would imply i'd get aroused seeing more NEW nude females, which does not happen. I don't really care if it's 5 or 50.

    What you're describing is escalation, which is true to some extent, however it doesn't fully apply to me, as i've been mostly watching the same type of hardcore porn for 15+ years. Never escalated to weird stuff like transgendered person porn, gay porn etc.
     
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  5. Oct 3, 2018 #5
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    So you have been watching hardcore, awful stuff for years and you are still surprised why don't you get aroused by a normal girl?
     
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  6. Oct 3, 2018 #6
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    Things will get worse if you don't get strict and shut down PMO - as difficult/unpleasant as that might be. When I seriously went for a PMO-free life it really did involve blocking almost everything on my PC, replacing my smartphone with a flip-phone, and dumping the TV but for documentaries, and even then only once in a while. I have been happily PMO free for a good while now, and I do not miss the smartphone or the TV.
    I'm absolutely not the only one who will tell you that the 'nuclear option' is the only way out of this. You cannot reach an accommodation with PMO as it will just grow back like a tumour. There are also people on this site who will tell you that they did not curtail their PMO addiction until they were watching seriously warped stuff and then acting it out in real life - it had normalized depravity to the extent they thought it acceptable to behave in a sick way for real.
    Quitting PMO comprehensively is the only way out of your situation; and yes, it will be difficult - but all worthwhile victories are difficult to attain. Nobody ever won a prize for doing nothing.
     
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  7. Oct 3, 2018 #7
    ultrafabber

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    I wouldn't say awful, just porn. But technically it is bad regardless. The point was that in my 15 year "journey" i did not escalate to weirder stuff or escalation was minimal.

    @Misneach I am going nuclear with no peeking/fantasizing etc. It has worked once (3 month streak) and it will work now, i'm aiming for lifetime. I either have a woman near me to get aroused for and have sex with or i won't allow myself to get aroused of fantasize or masturbate at all.
     
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  8. Oct 4, 2018 #8
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    Nevertheless, you use harder stuff than regular porn. Even if you don't experience escalation, you are used to some kind of stimuli and your brain is changing while watching it. Have regular things ever been exciting for you? By the way, all kind of porn is awful.
     
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  9. Oct 4, 2018 #9
    m@fia

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    leave porn and you will be fine later
     
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