Sexually frustrated

Hey people,

I'm 27 days into my reboot, really pushing hard to get to the 30 day mark, which I know I'll get to.
My problem other than my urge to PMO, is with my girlfriend.

She's dealing with her own issues and doesn't want to have sex very often, plus we only see each other 1-2 times a week.

I don't want to blame her but I feel like I get turned down alot and it leaves me feeling empty and thinking she doesn't want me, even tho I know she loves me and cares for me, she shows that everyday.

I just want us to fuck more often lol, I feel like more than ever I'm relying on her for that so I can stay away from porn. Is that selfish of me?
Maybe I'm just bad in bed and she doesn't want to hurt my feelings, I'm not sure what to do.

Can anyone else relate? And what did you do to help the situation? Also how can I harness this sexual energy into something more productive?

Thnx 4 reading this.

-protestThePMO

 

Hey @sayonaraPMO

Thnx for the response.

And yes, I agree with you, communicate is everything. I've told her about my PMO addiction and she was very understanding about it, she even told me about her issues she's been dealing with too, it's brought us closer.

And you're right, I do need to consider it a blessing that I've been able abstain from all forms of orgasms.

I know it's the fiend in my head driving me to feel this way, and to feel like I NEED to have sex whenever my SO is around. I'm trying my best to resist, but it's sooo difficult sometimes, especially if the urge to watch PMO is there.

I want to curve this sexual energy into something positive, like art or fitness (which I have been since I stopped with PMO)

But sometimes, I just want sex sooo bad
Staying strong tho, almost at the 30 day mark.

 

@boilerball123

Hey there, thanks for the advice.
Its the release I'm after for sure, I do want to get off, but I also want the intimacy with her, the physical connection with her.

I think it's a complex issue, I know I could get it elsewhere but I love this woman and I'd never want to cheat on her, that's why I do my best to not focus on sexual thoughts and occupy my time with other things to keep me busy.

Deep down though, I think I have some personal issues I need to work out.

You know that song
"I want you to want me, I need you to need me"?

it's a selfish cry for attention.. But I want to be wanted sexually by my woman and women in general, I think that's why I watched so much Porn, it gave me the false intimacy and gratification I desperately have been seeking.

I'm trying to fix what I think it is broken, cause I want a healthy relationship with my SO and with myself.

Thanks again

 

@Lady_anxiety

Not to pry too much, but have you talked to him outside of the bedroom about your wants and needs? Or possibly why he doesn't want to? He might have some issues with PMO that could interfere with your guys sex life (just a thought).

I know from experience it's a difficult subject to bring up, but it can help shed some light on the situation.

 

That's unfortunate, maybe there's another way you guys can find some common ground.
I'm no expert on the matter but if you guys want to stay together you'll work it out somehow.

If not, it might be time to start asking yourself the tough questions. Either way, best of luck to you and Beau, you guys can do it =) take care, wish I could be more helpful