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Yes, It is possible to pass the 30 days!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by theoptimist, May 5, 2018.

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May 20, 2018 #21

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Happy to hear that

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May 20, 2018 #22

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Well done buddy keep going... Believe in yourself

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May 20, 2018 #23

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Great job! Keep it up

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May 21, 2018 #24

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Well done buddy keep going... Believe in yourself
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Thanks a lot, your kind words means a lot to me

theoptimist, May 21, 2018

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May 21, 2018 #25

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Randox said: ↑

Great job! Keep it up
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Thanks buddy!

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Oct 8, 2018 #26

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Great job! Keep it up
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Thank you buddy and congrats on day 38

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Oct 12, 2018 #27

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theoptimist said: ↑

Hello Everyone (Brothers and Sisters),

I would like to share with you, how i broke the 30 days (For the 2nd time after I slipped on day 152).

1. Believe that you can stay sober. (Fake it till you make it) I know it sounds easy but the result is amazing according to many researches and experiments. You always get, what you believe in positive or negative. If you believed that you can't reach 30 days then you will never reach to 30 days. I personally start journalling almost everyday that I am PMO free and the day Came. Simply Imagine that 30 days is super easy till you do it.

2. Don't think too much about Addiction. Quitting PMO is just like quitting any other bad habit. I am very sure that you gave up a bad habit in the last 4 or 5 years of your live (quitting or reducing coffee, reducing too much T.V, Eating too much junk food, etc.) If you did it before with other habits then i assure you that you can do it again with PMO. Habit change takes time, discipline and dedication.

3. Study Yourself and Watch your Triggers. I am sure that most of us studied the best time to PMO where less people will interrupt us during PMOing, The best position for the computer, etc. Now it's the other way around. Study your triggers. Watch the exact date and time that you want to check porn and try to replace it with a positive activities. For example i used to PMO on Friday's night as a reward for myself that i finished the week. Now i found a voluntary work on Friday after my job which doesn't give me time to PMO

4.Treat your Body as an Infant. Getting enough sleep, Eating well, Working out, Meditation (Praying) Those things are very important for your recovery and will increase your will power. Treat your body as a child who you should care about him/her. Don't ever underestimate the power of the nervous system.

5. Search for other things that will make you happy. (For me that was the toughest thing) I know that most of us looks at PMO as a reward to makes us feel good. We usually look at porn when we are angry, sad or happy,But That's the real challenge. I kept searching for my hobbies because i didn't even know what are my hobbies beside watching porn - I went to join drawing class and i didn't feel that happy, i went to learn Spanish, i joined many activities just for the sake of knowing what makes me feel good.

6. Connection.. Connection.. Connection. Go out, make more contacts, find good friends, go to meetings (SLA, SCA groups), date real women, Accept rejection and move on. By the way, I got rejected from 2 girls and I am still alive. There are no shame to be rejected, the real shame is what i felt after the PMO.

7. Reward yourself. Yes, Recovery is not all about punishment and consequences. Rewards can be a good motivation for every milestones you achieve (5 days, 7 days, 10 days, 20 weeks, 3 weeks, - You plan it the way that you like) and even when you pass a difficult times, reward yourself by going to restaurant or buying something good as sign of victory that you passed a difficult time. write a list of rewards and link it with time and when passing a strong urge.

Now my Next step is to break the 90 days. I would like to start a daily checkin whatsapp group to motivate each others, Please send me a private message if are interested

Nice sir
Motivated
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Oct 13, 2018 #28

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Thank you buddy and congrats on day 38
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Thanks man

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Oct 14, 2018 #29

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Congratulations!!
What are the biggest benefits you experienced?

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Oct 14, 2018 #30

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Dein Englisch ist auch super!

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Oct 16, 2018 #31

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DoGoodStayClean said: ↑

Congratulations!!
What are the biggest benefits you experienced?
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Increase in my Self Confidence: I feel way better than before, I started really not to care about what other people think of me.
More Energy: I Can do many things more than before.
More Positive Thinking: I think that everything is literally possible and I don't need to worry about the future.
Enjoying Little Things: I started to enjoy a meal in breakfast or a small talk with a colleague at work, usually, I never noticed those things before.

theoptimist, Oct 16, 2018

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Oct 16, 2018 #32

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Dein Englisch ist auch super!
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danke, aber leider mein Deutsch ist nicht Perfekt.

theoptimist, Oct 16, 2018

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Dec 28, 2019 #33

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Finally, I broke the 30 days again and I would like to share with you this, since it might help anyone here

theoptimist, Dec 28, 2019

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Dec 28, 2019 #34

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theoptimist said: ↑

Finally, I broke the 30 days again and I would like to share with you this, since it might help anyone here
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I still need 7 days to reach 30 days.
I hope, I can make it too.
So inspiring reading other success story to reach their goal.
Don't stop at 30... Make it a lifestyle...

Paf-On, Dec 28, 2019

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Jan 4, 2020 #35

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Paf-On said: ↑

I still need 7 days to reach 30 days.
I hope, I can make it too.
So inspiring reading other success story to reach their goal.
Don't stop at 30... Make it a lifestyle...
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Congrats on day 29, Don't forget to reward yourself when you reach the 30 days.

Definitely, this will be our new life style

theoptimist, Jan 4, 2020

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Jan 4, 2020 #36

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Congrats on day 29, Don't forget to reward yourself when you reach the 30 days.

Definitely, this will be our new life style
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Thank you so much for the support... Really appreciate it...

Paf-On, Jan 4, 2020

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Jan 4, 2020 #37

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theoptimist said: ↑

Hello Everyone (Brothers and Sisters),

I would like to share with you, how i broke the 30 days (After I slipped on day 152 and on day 332).

1. Believe that you can stay sober. (Fake it till you make it) I know it sounds easy but the result is amazing according to many researches and experiments. You always get, what you believe in positive or negative. If you believed that you can't reach 30 days then you will never reach to 30 days. I personally start journalling almost everyday that I am PMO free and the day Came. Simply Imagine that 30 days is super easy till you do it.

2. Burn your boats. Like Tony Robbins said “If you want to take the island you need to burn the boats.” Retreat is easy when you have the option. The choice of watching porn shouldn't it be an option, delete all the options that might lead you to PMO, buy software that block porn, etc

3. Don't think too much about Addiction. Quitting PMO is just like quitting any other bad habit. I am very sure that most of us gave up a bad habit in the last 4 or 5 years of our lives (quitting or reducing coffee, reducing too much T.V, Eating too much junk food, etc.) If you did it before with other habits then i assure you that you can do it again with PMO. Habit change takes time, discipline and dedication.

4. Study Yourself and Watch your Triggers. I am sure that most of us studied the best time to PMO where less people will interrupt us during PMOing, The best position for the computer, etc. Now it's the other way around. Study your triggers. Watch the exact date and time that you want to check porn and try to replace it with a positive activities. For example i used to PMO on Friday's night as a reward for myself that i finished the week. Now i found a voluntary work on Friday after my job which doesn't give me time to PMO

5.Treat your Body as an Infant. Getting enough sleep, Eating well, Working out, Meditation (Praying) Those things are very important for your recovery and will increase your will power. Treat your body as a child who you should care about him/her. Don't ever underestimate the power of the nervous system.

6. Search for other things that will make you happy. (For me that was the toughest thing) I know that most of us looks at PMO as a reward to makes us feel good. We usually look at porn when we are angry, sad or happy, but That's the real challenge. I kept searching for my hobbies because i didn't even know what are my hobbies beside watching porn - I went to join drawing class and i didn't feel that happy, i went to learn Spanish, i joined many activities just for the sake of knowing what makes me feel good.

7. Connection.. Connection.. Connection. Go out, make more contacts, find good friends, go to meetings (SLA, SCA groups), date real women, accept rejection and move on. By the way, I got rejected from 2 girls and I am still alive. There are no shame to be rejected, the real shame is what I felt after the PMO.

8. Reward yourself. Yes, Recovery is not all about punishment and consequences. Rewards can be a good motivation for every milestones you achieve (5 days, 7 days, 10 days, 20 weeks, 3 weeks, - You plan it the way that you like) and even when you pass a difficult times, reward yourself by going to restaurant or buying something good as sign of victory that you passed a difficult time. write a list of rewards and link it with time and when passing a strong urge.

Finally nothing is free in this world, sobriety isn't for free. There is always a price we need to pay in-order to free ourselves from PMO. Don't be shy to pay money to try a new hobby or for a software that will block porn. Sacrifice watching some shows or type of movies that might trigger you. I know this is not easy for everyone but it is possible and it is worth it.

I really wish i didn't get sober - said nobody ever

Thank you very much for reading and I wish for all you to reach your goals.
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Thank you for this amazing thead !

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Mar 31, 2020 #38

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You are right brother I like it

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Mar 31, 2020 #39

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You are right brother I like it

nirav2696, Mar 31, 2020

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Apr 1, 2020 #40

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Thank you I hope it can help everybody

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