Would this be considered a porn addiction?

Hello,

I am new to this. I am a male in my 40s and for the last three years I have had a problem having sex with my wife. It has never been an issue before but for some unknown reason around October 2015, "it" fell during sex. Since then the problem became worse and spiraled out of control. I have seen several doctors and they have not seen any physical problem. Medications for sex prescribed didn't help, (I never needed them before) However, my problem persisted. In the past I occasionally fapped but it never interfered with having normal sex. However, the situation changed in Oct 2015. I have not been able to have normal sex but have had no problem fapping. In particular, the images I found most appealing was of my wife in seductive poses. However, when it came time for sex, I failed/failing miserably. Is it possible that my mind became addicted to the images and responded to it like a porn addiction even though this is not some random woman from a porn website? I have gone cold turkey and have no intention of going back. I would like to restore my normal sex life to the way it was before. Also, is it possible that the occasional fapping caught up with me due to my age? This problem never occurred to me as I always thought it was some unknown physical condition. Since finding this site, I am now wondering if I missed the obvious. It has now been two days only of no fapping! In the past, I resorted to this activity when the sex failed, (due to frustration). Not sure if anyone has had similar problems. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

 

Thanks for your help!! It's strange because the problem seems to be intermittent, earlier in the year it seemed to have gone away, (although I finished too fast). Then it came back. I did notice that when I performed "well" I did not M as much which leads me to believe that M is what is causing the problem, (I resumed more/less afterward). This time I will not.

 

It sure seems that way. I just can't understand why these symptoms showed up after 16 years of marriage. I always had fapped occasionally to her but thinking about it, the last 3 years have been more, especially after each failed sex attempt, I had no choice but to release it by fapping. I did notice that a few months ago, when I stopped, the normal sex returned, (although I was much too fast). I then resumed my old habits and here I am in this s--t again! Perhaps this is just a vicious cycle I keep putting myself in? I'm sure my current age at the time of the problem to now, (mid 40s) didn't help either

 

Also, yes she is very understanding. However, her understanding is that I am stuck this way for life and there are other good things in our life that she can overlook this. The problem with that is that I cannot and will not accept it. Hearing her say that only infuriates me more at myself and the whole situation I have put myself in! The bottom line is I can't really speak to her about this as it upsets her and she feels helpless as there is no way for her to help me otherwise. Basically, I'm almost on my own trying to fix this. Every failed sex attempt only worsens the problem.

 

She truly believes the problem is a medical one. Although no doctor can pinpoint any, (unless of course there is money to be made in creating one). For a while I believed that as well until I recently noticed that I can get it up just not for sex which brought me here

 

It sure seems that way. I just can't understand why these symptoms showed up after 16 years of marriage. I always had fapped occasionally to her but thinking about it, the last 3 years have been more, especially after each failed sex attempt, I had no choice but to release it by fapping. I did notice that a few months ago, when I stopped, the normal sex returned, (although I was much too fast). I then resumed my old habits and here I am in this s--t again! Perhaps this is just a vicious cycle I keep putting myself in? I'm sure my current age at the time of the problem to now, (mid 40s) didn't help either

 

Also, yes she is very understanding. However, her understanding is that I am stuck this way for life and there are other good things in our life that she can overlook this. The problem with that is that I cannot and will not accept it. Hearing her say that only infuriates me more at myself and the whole situation I have put myself in! The bottom line is I can't really speak to her about this as it upsets her and she feels helpless as there is no way for her to help me otherwise. Basically, I'm almost on my own trying to fix this. Every failed sex attempt only worsens the problem.

 

She truly believes the problem is a medical one. Although no doctor can pinpoint any, (unless of course there is money to be made in creating one). For a while I believed that as well until I recently noticed that I can get it up just not for sex which brought me here

 

Thanks for your help!! It's strange because the problem seems to be intermittent, earlier in the year it seemed to have gone away, (although I finished too fast). Then it came back. I did notice that when I performed "well" I did not M as much which leads me to believe that M is what is causing the problem, (I resumed more/less afterward). This time I will not.

 

Thanks! I know that now. Like I said, at that time, I truly believed it was purely a physical issue of some sort. Abstaining at that time was only for the purpose of making myself more hungry and not thinking that this activity could be the cause of the problem