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Is it normal not to feel attraction to any girl?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Oct 18, 2018.

  1. I used to be a lonely, shy, insecure, desperate loser who couldn't get anyone to like him. I was your average lonely virgin. I used to fall in love with literally every girl I saw.

    But now I improved a lot as a person: I started going to the gym, changed my looks, got new friends, improved my social skills, got a huge confidence boost. I feel like a new man. Thing is, I just can't fall in love with any girl. Not a single one. I start talking to her, we get along pretty damn good, she starts to like me but... I feel nothing. You may say that "it's natural that you find people that you don't find attractive" but it's completely unnatural to find every single girl unattractive. I don't feel either sexual or emotional attraction to anyone...
     
  2. Do you feel attraction into boys so ?
    Then if you can't love anyone that could be a psychological problem... I mean this is ok, just don't take this as a bad thing, this could be a illness who can be cured by seing a psychologist.
     
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  3. nope, I don't feel attraction into boys, but I never felt it.
    Yes, it's not normal to be incapable of falling in love when I was the most romantic guy I knew. The fact that I don't have an answer to it is tearing me apart...
     
  4. Jason_Tesla_19

    Jason_Tesla_19 Fapstronaut

    It could be flatline killing your libido. Wait it out, it should come back. If it doesn't come back in a couple months, or you're not getting morning wood for weeks, talk to your doctor, because it could be hormone levels are messed up.
     
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  5. that's the thing: my hormone levels are normal and I've been feeling like this for more than a year...
     
  6. primaljade

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    I'm guessing you live in the US.
     
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  7. Khufu

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    i find that every 20 females i interact with i only mentally click with 3 of them and every 20 i only find 2 sexually attractive , funny part is the 2 i find sexually attractive have the same appearance of the majority of the original 20 , so i realize its the pheromones i imagine different females let off different pheromones ,an i believe Ming weakens the pheromones so, these females we dont find attractive maybe its a possiblity they have a pmo addiction, remember we attract what we practice
     
  8. Khufu

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    the reason why i give huge numbers like 20s is cause i work in a busy resturant an we hire tons a new girls cause the ones we hired quit,
     
  9. primaljade

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    The OP, was a statement not a question, and am half-joking.
     
  10. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    Go out in the street and count how many attractive women you see. Don't approach. Just observe. Then you can figure out better if you are still attracted to women. If nothing, then go see a doctor.

    A healthy male is attracted to someone he sees. It's a biological thing for us to find mates.

    It doesn't mean that he is attracted to everyone! No. He should be attracted to some attractive people.

    Throughout my NoFap journey, I'm always attracted to some women I see walking. Always.
     
  11. GripStrength

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    I get the same way. Haven’t been no fapping yet though. When I don’t fap I get attracted to every girl I talk to. Big and gross. Doesn’t matter. BUT! It seems like you are talking about something deeper. I started to experience that at point in life when I just realized how trivial everything is, and that were just a both of weird mammals doing weird stuff like driving down roads and going to work. I’ve always been a closet hopeless romantic. But I feel it slipping away the older I get! I think that I won’t fall in love with anyone most times, but know that if I do it will probably just be one woman. Maybe you aren’t a huge fan of fake people that don’t aren’t able to think outside their daily chores. Which would be totally normal in my opinion. How could you fall in love with someone that hasn’t done something like you have with NoFap and changing your life? Most people don’t know how to face that kind of thing and think about themselves in that kind of reconstructing way. So would make sense that they aren’t doing anything for you imo.
     
  12. GripStrength

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    It’s like being some enlightened master of self-control. Having tons of hot babes with no control at all and no deep thoughts coming up to say hello. Trying to get his enlightened rod. That enlightened master guy will not be attracted to anyone he sees at all. Unless of course someone comes along on his level. It would be rare to happen. But it doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to anyone. Just not attracted to 99.99% of the women that say Hello.
     
  13. MJ225

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    I have the same thing, I'm pretty sure we are just desensitized to real women, I've talked to alot of girls this year, some who were just my type and absolutely beautiful, I never felt any sexual desire towards any of them though, talking it over with a friend he says he always has that desire when he approaches girls but it's something I can't relate to due to my years of porn abuse, that's my reason for rebooting
     
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  14. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Since your doing NoFap maybe you're just going through a flat line. A lot of people on this website have gone through it. If that's the case just stay patient.

    In fact stay patient either way. At some point you'll see a girl and feel the need to talk to her. Don't worry too much and keep working on your self improvement
     
  15. BigOne79

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    Bumping your post up again because I ha r the same question. I guess I have been so desensitized to real girls that it will take time for that feeling to come back to me.

    How have you been feeling lately with your streak going...??
     
  16. MrUndo

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    I felt this way but turns out I was just gay.
     
  17. zenon27

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    the dude said anyone including guys, what makes him gay after that?
     
  18. Love is not an emotion. Love is sacrifice. Love is self gift.
     
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  19. Hi there,

    I want to say that I am the same.

    I believe that there are underlying 2 issues:

    Issue 1: You are looking for those hot girls like those girls from movies.
    Issue 2: You don't realize that attraction happens on multiple levels.

    What you need is exposure.

    You need to learn to know them.

    When you start to appreciate her, attraction happens naturally.

    In other words, you can look at this as on issue or as on a gift.
     
  20. USER_ERROR

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    the account is deleted and in any case last time he posted was 2018
     

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