How to deal with fetishes and gay thoughts

Can't suggest anything since I have the same problem ... hope anyone else will answer this

 

You’ll need to fill your mind with other things, things that are healthy. Get full into another hobby that takes up so much time you won’t have time for porn.

Hobbies and activities that not only take up your time doing but take up your time planning for. Things that are a challenge but that you also enjoy.

As long as you have extended “dead” times you’ll be greatly tempted by porn.

It’s not an easy fight but getting away from porn is well worth it.

 

I remember when I was in college I spent a lot of time in the school library doing my homework. That might be a help. Spend more time at the library than at home.

One thing I’ve been doing is to train my mind to immediately think of something specific when I’m tempted. For a while that one thing was Pink Elephants. I’d try my best to imagine them flying around up high in the sky. It’s crazy but it gets the mind off the temptation. Now I just think about 3 specific questions about the woman:

-What are her world views?
-What are her interests.
-What are her goals.

It’s better than thinking about sex with her. Those questions might even encourage you to start a conversation with the woman which will further help you to stop seeing them as sex objects.

Hope that helps.

 

When I was a student (a long time ago!), I had the same kinds of problems. And even now, unfortunately, my work involves a lot of research, studying, and writing, which makes NoFap a constant struggle. I feel your pain! But a guy above gave a great piece of advice that saved my college education: Spend three hours a day, six days a week, in the library. Short break between each hour. I know it sounds extreme, but it felt so good to be ready for every class, on top of every assignment, earning excellent grades. Or go to a cafe to study. Just don't be in a place or situation where you can succumb to the the temptations of online porn. It's worth a try, right? Good luck!

 

Maybe try meditation as well vegan diet has helped me a lot as well, reducing urges and helped also on many other areas.
We live in a world of a lot deception if you ask me... i try to get my hyper active mind more calm.. to be able to live a better life. All the best

 

I agree with you about the deception in this world. Porn is just one of many things leading people down the wrong path.