Ideal perception of women? Need your wisdom

Hey people, need your thoughts and wisdom on some thoughts/ideas.

So I'm on about day 110 at the moment of Nofap and it has been one of the greatest things I've ever done with my life, the number of benefits are insane and I've listed them before here. But at the moment I'm just wondering about a few things and this might be a bit of a braindump so bear with me.

I really feel like there's some kind of huge fundamental shift going on with my view of women, perhaps mentally but definitely physically. Now if I see a really hot chick, i try to avoid it on the web but occasionally it pops up, but now when I see that, my thoughts are just like "That's a hot chick" and I don't really feel that lusty for it, whereas before I think I would look at the photo or the image, visual, and just immediately want to fuck it.

I would say all in all it feels like I have a lower sex drive now, or maybe I'm just more in control of it. If I was to put a rating on it , I would say my standards have risen 20% or more with women. I have a feeling that before, when I would meet chicks and take them home, even if they were a little bit below my standards, I would be attracted to them because I was to a degree, attracted to the (superficial?) fantasy of fucking, and fucking them. I think the attraction that I had before that lead me to being horny was actually not a genuine attraction for them as a person or physically, but some kind of product of me always pumping my brain full of fantasies when watching porn, and i was mostly attracted to the fantasy. Does anyone relate to this? Does this make sense? I don't know how I feel about fucking someone just to fulfill a fantasy, that seems disingenuous. But couples do that all the time with cosplay shit so idk.

I haven't watched porn or fapped this whole time but around day 90 I met a girl from tinder and she got us a hotel room the second time we met, and she is definitely not unattractive, and shes a fine person, but I found the sex pretty unsatisfying. I feel like now I really have to significantly like them as a person, and they have to be up to my standards for me to really get passionate with them. There needs to be some kind of good spark there. And I think I'm okay with that, because it means I don't need to cater, i can just be my genuine self and i dont need to feign attraction or fantasize, cause when I meet someone who really sparks me I think I can be fully with it.

Anyways what do you all think about this?

 

Thanks man! I agree with you, you've phrased it well.

You will definitely make it to 100 days! Just exercise, meditate and focus your life towards what you consider to be the most meaningful future.