Abstaining from orgasm is killing my sexual responsiveness - help!

Hello! I quit a decade-long MO habit in January. I've been porn free for over 270 days and mostly MO free, although I would have the odd spell of relapsing then getting back on it again.

Quick backstory;

-I used to only be one of those rare women who was able to reliably orgasm from PIV sex every time, had never masturbated in my life at this point.
-Became single, learned how to masturbate, used porn occasionally but mostly fantasised. As a result couldn't O with a man in any way whatsoever - could only do it myself because I was so desensitised from MO, this went on for 10 years.
-Quit it all in early January this year
-Started being able to O from oral for the first time in mid feb. So it took 6 weeks without MO to start being able to O from oral. But I did have a few wet dreams in this time so I wasn't entirely without O. Have been able to O from oral since feb, no issues.

I decided to stop allowing oral 3 weeks ago, in order to try and give my sensitivity a boost with the intention of eventually getting my PIV O's back. So I haven't O'd in 3 weeks. Trouble is, now whenever I'm going this long without O, my sexual responsiveness is shutting down. I still feel horny and want sex, but my body isn't responding. I'm suddenly not getting properly aroused, I'm not feeling much sexual excitement (even with lots of lovely foreplay) and I'm feeling much less sexual pleasure.

When I allow oral again (or masturbate), and start having orgasms in my life again, all my sexual responsiveness comes back. I get nicely aroused for sex, I feel very 'excited' and I feel intense sexual pleasure during.

When I first quit in Jan, I would have wet dreams that effectively kept me ramped up while I couldn't yet O with partner. I don't seem to be having those now, despite feeling very uncomfortable and like I desperately need to O. So I'm having no O's at all.

Abstaining from O's is making my body go to sleep. I'm finding it really frustrating. Am I wasting my time with this abstaining from oral thing? Or will it resolve itself in time?

It's not the lack of O's that's bugging me, because I know I can have one from oral whenever I want, but if I keep doing that I don't think I'll ever get my PIV O's back. What's bugging me is the massive decrease in my responsiveness and enjoyment of sex.

Am I starting to flatline? Should I stick it out? Or am I killing off my responsiveness for nothing?

 

I'm no expert, but it does sound rather similar to what a lot of people say about the flatline. Apparently this no PMO is very much about the brain as much as the body.
May as well give it a go for a few months!
Hope you're ok.

 

Hey thanks, but i haven't watching porn since jan. I'm still wanting sex and horny (and feel like im gonna spontaneously O) but my body isnt responding.. its shutting down from not having O's. Its the 'use it or lose it' thing. I dont think this is working for me!

 

Part of your brain is making you think that you need to orgasm. I feel it too.
C'mon just hold back. Do something else.
You can do this!

 

I think u definitely stop watching porn. you are succeeding very well with this. Don't forget this movement started to help men abstaining from problematic porn induced behavior. the not orgasming maybe not something you would like to do for a long time. Daoist traditions have a less rigid view then a lot of people have on this no fab forum. you should read into because i dont know myself if its detrimental for sexual health to abstain too long from orgasm. I know when i dont O over 45 days my pelvic floor muscles get very weak and balls start to hurt but definitely no porn anymore. I am single now at the moment and dont think releasing once in 6 weeks is detrimental. I know my views will not be in accordance with others on this forum, it is a no fab forum so , but i detect a lot of puritanism and extremism wich i cant help to think are not an optimal constructive way to deal with our sexuality. it should be a way to control our sexual behaviour in a gentle constructive way and not a church like dont touch it or you fuck up yourself way. good luck , inform yourself from different perspectives . no one has the answers in the end .only you can discover this for yourself.good luck. 'awakened intent! on youtube has a good video about this ( semen retention) google it.