It's possible 90 days without wetdreams?

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Warrior SK, Oct 27, 2018.

  1. Warrior SK

    Warrior SK New Fapstronaut

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    Hello my friends, i'm on day 62 and i have my first wetdream on my journey and i feel a little bad because i liberated my semen and have an orgasm.. this delayed my process? :/
    Obs: sorry for bad english i'm brazilian.
     
  2. Healed!

    Healed! Fapstronaut

    The reboot is not about semen retention per se but rewiring the brain to sex with a real human and giving the penis a rest from death grip in order to regain sensitivity.
     
  3. You can’t control wet dreams so they are not a relapse, and they’re part of the process! Don’t worry about them.
     
  4. gagate

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    That's not true, dreams are a reflection of what you think daily, if OP would have no sexual thoughts for 62 days in a row he would have no wet dream, i have none myself and my mind is pure.
     
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  5. Having zero sexual thoughts is damn near impossible when recovering. Of course we shouldn’t dwell on the thoughts but they will pop up from time to time.
     
  6. gagate

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    Yeah without proper sadhana is impossible, but if they pop up quickly dismiss them
     
  7. Warrior SK

    Warrior SK New Fapstronaut

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    Hello brothers! I was worried with my energy after the wetdream, i was angry with myself because the wetdream was caused by my thoughts, but i noticied what my "energy" still continues good. Sincerely the porn is not my harder obstacle in the journey, and yes of M. I had hypogonadism and strong PE and my objective in the NoFap is give a masculinized and strenghten my mind.
     
  8. Ravefist

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    Thanks for the information. Is it bad to have wet dreams after receiving to these thoughts? I have been able to go from having a wet dream every 5 days to going nearly 8 days without a wet dream. This has been going for about 3.5 months where I have a wet dream at this frequency. Bhai, are we losing our essence and life force by having wet dreams, particularly at this frequency?!
     
  9. Nekkhamma

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    Just my own experience here. I once went 5 months without a wet dream or any orgasm, while living a fairly busy life, working two jobs, being exposed to attractive women, etc...also, I've had it happen where I had been on a ten day silent meditation retreat, with little stimulation or sexual thoughts/cravings during the day, and lo and behold I had a wet dream one night during the retreat! It's uncertain when they'll happen. I will say, I believe for the most part, if we don't indulge in sex fantasies and edging, we probably won't have too many wet dreams, and if we do they'll likely start to decrease. But we really don't know for sure exactly when or why a random one will pop up. Our subconscious mind goes pretty deep. But yeah, to redirect sexual thoughts, find constructive creative things to do, help others, get out of my own way, practice kindness, letting go, meditation: when I do these things, life goes in a much better direction. I hope you find the answers you're seeking. :emoji_pray:
     
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  10. Ravefist

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    Thank you very much for your insightful response! If I may ask, do you think wet dreams are damaging to the body? Additionally, how have your experiences been at meditation retreats, and where do you usually go to attend one? Thanks in advance for your response!
     
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  11. I had no wet dream since I started nofap. But I had when I was younger. I think there is nothing wrong with it.
     
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  12. Nekkhamma

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    "More energy is wasted during coition. But it is not so when emission occurs during the dreaming state. In a wet dream, it may be the outflow of the prostatic juice only. Even if there is loss of the vital fluid, there is not much draining. The actual essence does not come out during wet dreams. It is only the watery prostatic juice with a little semen that is discharged during nocturnal pollutions. When nocturnal emission takes place, the mind which was working in the inner astral body suddenly enters the physical body vehemently in an agitated condition. That is the reason why emission takes place suddenly." --Swami Sivananda.

    I've never had frequent wet dreams, but when they do happen it hasn't caused me many issues, aside from the chaser effect. A friend of mine, however, has some energy issues when he has them. If you're younger you may have them more frequently. I think the biggest thing is to not beat yourself up over having them. Maybe try to avoid edging and sexual fantasies during the day, and focus on positive tools and practices that you can do. Other than that, let go brother, and don't be too hard on yourself! Gentle yet firm seems to work best for myself.

    I've had wonderful experiences on retreats, and really difficult experiences on retreats. Ive practiced mainly in the Theravada/vipassana tradition, but whatever you feel inclined towards the main thing is just to do the practice, formally and in daily life. Doing a daily meditation practice helps to be more mindful in regular life. Also, being more mindful and aware in daily life helps the mind settle down more easily during meditation practice. The best thing that's come from daily practice and retreat practice is probably the idea that it's a PRACTICE, I'm no expert but I've found tools that when I use them the results are good. And following some ethical guidelines and practicing kindness and generosity helps. When I avoid harming people and avoid overindulgence in pleasure (hello pmo!) my mind tends to be more steady and at ease. Progress, slow and steady is how it goes for most us. Patience is huge. Working on cooling down the fires of passion and greed and anger and wrong thinking. Anyway, enough out of me. Good luck!
     
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  13. Tiger Balm

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    Let's not get to hung up on this. I grew up in a very conservative culture and at time when pornography was not as easy to get. Most of my buddies were having wet dreams because it is the body's natural way to eliminate. To judge another person or to set yourself aside as "pure" does nothing to help.

    If you are diligent in your efforts to PMO then you have already achieved something remarkable. If your body/brain decides that there is a need to involuntarily ejaculate, then accept it as part of the process.

    At the end of the day, only you know the answer for you. You know if you have been inappropriate according to the guidelines you've committed to follow. No one else can really make that judgement for you. Truly, you know the answer.

    For those that would judge, please remember that this community is supposed to be based on honest, constructive feedback and support.
     
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  14. Nekkhamma

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    Totally agree, well said my friend!
     
  15. U mind is so pure u have to brag about it regularly :D
     
  16. gagate

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    There's a difference between being honest and bragging
     
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  17. Nimareg

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    on day 63 a had my first wetdream too, just part of the process
     
  18. KeepGoingStayStrong!

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    Bro i have every week 1 wet dream :(
     
  19. Gdwillpr

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    You are good brother. That's the bodies natural way to regulate semen. This will happen, you are good my friend, keep up the great work!
     
  20. Gdwillpr

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    That is not normal to have no sexual thoughts for 62 days. Either you are not being honest, or you are having a medical problem.
     
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